These life lessons came from his career as a navy seal.
Seals are known for their physical and mental strength and their ability to perform warrior acts in brutal conditions. So it was fascinating to hear the first lesson was to make your bed in the morning. It seems to be such a simple thing and to be honest, nothing new; because your mum has been telling you since you were little. However, that simple action has big rewards.
The admiral explains when you accomplish your first task, it gives you a small sense of pride and it encourages to you do another and another. At the end of the day, the simple action of making your bed will have turned into a productive day.
He also makes the point that if you do happen to have a bad day, then at least you will come home to a made bed and that will give you hope that tomorrow will be better.
Do you make your bed? A lot of ADHDers don’t. Here are some of the common reasons:
- I don’t have time; I am always in a rush in the mornings.
- What is the point? I’ll only mess it up again in the evenings.
- It’s boring.
- It’s just something else I have ‘to do’.
- No one will notice; I live on my own.
- I have more important things to do.
Making your bed doesn’t have to take you long. If you have a duvet, all you really need to do is pull it up to the pillows and straighten it out a little. For a more advanced technique, you could plump the pillows and it still would still take you less than a minute.
However, when you have ADHD, the act of making your bed is huge.
1. You have experienced your first ‘win’ of the day. This means you get a shot of dopamine and feel the urge to do something else. To learn more about ADHD and productivity, head here.
2. It improves your self-esteem because you are crossing things off your to do list.
3. You are taking care of yourself and nurturing yourself, which many ADHDers aren’t accustomed to doing.
4. When your bed is tidy, your whole bedroom looks tidier. ADHDers find it hard to tidy up after themselves because it’s boring. Now, you are doing a bit of tidying up without even thinking about it.
5. When you are feeling accomplished and good about yourself, your mood is brighter. You feel happier and that has a knock-on effect for the rest of the day.
I have been recommending making your bed to clients for the last year and every one of them has noticed a positive effect in their lives. Why don’t you give it a try?
Do you make your bed this morning? Leave me a note in the comments section below!!
Here is the speech if you would like to watch it!