ADDers can be very hard on themselves and often feel ‘less than’. Instead of acknowledging what you did today and feeling proud, it is really easy to focus on what you didn’t do instead.
This affects your self-esteem and confidence, lowers your physical energy and makes you sad 🙁
A little while ago a client sent me a video because it reminded her of the work we had been doing together.
It is fascinating!
Shawn Anchor, the author of ‘The Happiness Advantage’ says we need to reverse the formula for happiness and success. The current one, that most people live by is ‘the harder I work the more successful I will be and the more successful I am the happier I will be.’
BUT, this model is flawed, because every time we have a success we change the goal post.
You get good grades, but now you have to get better grades. You have a good job, now you have to get a better job. “If happiness is on the opposite side of success your brain will never get there. We have pushed happiness over the cognitive horizon and that is because we have to be successful and then we will be happy’.
In the video, Shawn explains that our brains work in the opposite order of society’s success formula.
For example, if you are feeling happy and positive in the present, then the performance of your brain improves, your intelligence, energy and creativity are all increased.
AND it gets better… when your brain is in a positive gear, it is 31% more productive, 37% better in sales and doctors are 19% faster at making an accurate and quick diagnoses.
Make yourself a cup of tea, and relax because you are in for a treat. As well as being informative and wise, Shawn Anchor is a really funny presenter.