A newsletter reader asked if I had any advice for the
‘overwhelming hassle of moving’
Moving homes is recognized as one of life’s most stressful events. When you have ADHD that stress can be amplified because it involves planning, decision making, multi-step processes, phone calls as well as boring tasks like packing a box!
It also creates a disruption in your regular routine, which can make your ADHD symptoms feel worse.
Here is an ADHD Friendly Checklist to help with your move. The aim is to make your move as painless as possible. You can add or delete items to personalize the list for your needs.
1) Start Decluttering
As soon as you know you are moving, start decluttering your belongings. There is no point in moving belongings you don’t like or need any more. Use the Marie Kondo method to help with this.
If your decluttering includes furniture, the fastest way I know to declutter furniture is to list it on Kijiji as ‘free to a good home’.
There are pluses and minuses to giving furniture away rather than selling it. You don’t make money; however, you do get items of furniture removed from you home quickly (typically on the same day as you post it).
2) When is Your Moving Date?
Sometimes your moving date is set by other people, other times you can pick it yourself. Get clear on when your exact moving day is (even if it feels scary). Once you have your date, you can plan, book and arrange everything else.
3) Movers
How are you moving your belongings? Are you using a professional moving company, hiring a truck to move yourself or asking friends to help? Whatever option you pick, make the booking now.
4) Boxes
Start collecting boxes. You can never have too many boxes when you move!
Free boxes
Stores will often give you their spare boxes if you ask. Boxes that have transported wine are great because they are strong. Whenever you are in a store, ask a clerk, ‘Do you have any boxes to help me move?’
Bankers Boxes
I love Bankers Boxes from the office supply store. They are strong so you can use them for heavy items, and, because of their size, it is hard to pack a box that is too heavy to lift.
Bankers Boxes are designed to transport hanging files, which is perfect if you have a filing cabinet. Usually 1 drawer of hanging files will fit in one box.
However, you can use them for everything, including books, plates and other kitchen items, ornaments and bathroom supplies.
Specialty Moving Boxes
Do a Google search to find a local store that sells moving supplies. They have boxes in all size ranges. Perhaps the best box they sell is a wardrobe box, which comes with a rail. After you have assembled it, you simply move your clothes that are on hangers from your wardrobe directly to the wardrobe box. No folding and no wrinkles. They are an investment, so once you get one, keep it for future moves.
5) Other Supplies
In addition to boxes, here are other moving essentials. You can get these from the office supply store or the moving store.
Tape in a Dispenser
Buying a tape dispenser might seem extravagant; however, it saves so much time. You never have to figure out where the end of the tape is again.
Bubble Wrap
To wrap your very precious items
Marker Pens
To label your boxes. Sharpies are awesome.
Kitchen Paper
Great for wrapping your plates and other breakables. You could use newspaper; however, if you don’t get a newspaper delivered it can be hard to track down enough newspaper for your move.
Garbage Bags
As you are packing, (hopefully) you will be throwing out lots of things, which means having enough garbage bags on hand.
Clear Bags
These are big like garbage bags, but you can see what is inside. They are good to use for items being donated to charity. Having bags that look very different avoids confusion about what goes where.
6) Photos
If you are sentimental, or like to keep records , take photos of your current home now, before you start packing.
7) Packing
Physically packing your belongings into boxes is the moving task that many ADHDers hate the most. It can be boring, overwhelming and exhausting. However, it doesn’t need to be.
Break the task down into small parts. Pick 1 room and use your timer to pack in 15 minute chunks. Listen to your favorite podcast or music for company. After completing 4 sessions of 15 minutes, take a 15 minute break.
Once a box is packed, write in big letters what room that the items are from. This is for the movers. Underneath that, write a word or 2 that will help you know where everything is (E.g.,KITCHEN. Coffee maker). Don’t write miscellaneous on a box!
Pack in Phases
Phase 1
Go into each room and pack the items that aren’t essential in your day to day life. For example, out of season clothes, holiday ornaments, pictures, etc.
Start with the big things first. This gives you a psychological advantage because your home will look different and a bit empty, which will make the move feel real and help to limit procrastination.
Phase 2
1 week before your moving date, go room by room and pack everything else.
8) Eat Up
Start eating the food items you have in stock, particularly your frozen food, which is difficult to transport safely. This can be fun, because it forces you to get creative and think how you can turn X into an interesting meal.
9) Post Office
Go to your post office and fill out a change of address/redirect form. There are usually serval options for how long you want the redirection to last. Take the longest option even though it is more expensive. This way, you have a safety net in place in case you forget to notify someone important.
10) Change of Address
Write a list of all the people to contact with your change of address. For example:
*Government for driver’s license and electoral poll etc
*Doctors
*Employers
*Bank
*Newspaper and magazine subscriptions
*Friends and family
Then start to notify these people:
11) Insurance
Contact your home insurance company and tell them about your move so your policy can be updated with your new address. There might be a small variation in your insurance fee, either lower or higher.
12) Utilities
Notify the utility companies of your move. Have them cancel the services on the day of your move and reconnected to your new home. Your utilities might include
Electricity
Water
Telephone
Wi-Fi
13) Admin Details
Renting
If you are renting, give your landlord your notice. Also remind yourself of your lease requirements. For example, get holes in the wall filled, professionally cleaned etc.
Also find out what your new lease requirements are, for example, paying 2 month’s rent in advance.
Buyers
Speak to your bank and or real estate agent to find out specific actions you need to do, such as signing contracts and payments. If you don’t understand something, don’t be shy to ask; these are professionals, and their job it is to help you.
14) Pets
Arrange a safe place for your pets on the day of the move, such as with a friend, neighbor or kennel. A client lost her cat the day of her move because the doors were open for the movers, and the curious cat escaped. They found each other 2 days later; however, it was a traumatic experience for both of them.
15) Payment for the Movers
How are you going to pay the movers, by cash or credit card? Make sure to have those handy. Or if your friends are helping, have money to pay for the pizza delivery.
16) Day of the Move
Moving day can be physically and emotionally demanding. Wear comfortable clothes that you don’t mind getting dirty. Have an overnight bag with all your essentials, like medication, toothbrush, cell phone charger etc. This will be the last thing you pack and the first thing to unpack. Don’t plan on doing anything else besides moving! Take a day off from work, and say no to all other requests. Focus on you and your move.
I have ADHD and have been recovering from Late Stage Lyme Disease as well. When we decided we wanted to move awhile ago, I started packing bit by bit.
I knew I was not up to packing the whole house in the 4-6 weeks between contract and move. This approach helps.
I label boxes carefully, so if we need to break into one for an item, we can.
An added bonus is that this approach helps with decluttering. When a move takes months or years and you do without an item for awhile, you get clearer on what you actually use often and want to keep — and what can go on to bless someone else once you are settled.
Awesome! It’s a very helpful list. Thanks for sharing great post.
Thank you so much for this article. Very very helpful especially the 15 minute increments. I’m a huge fan of Banker boxes and has always use them and have you been saved empty ones for future move from 4 years ago. I was newly diagnosed ADHD, a year ago. I’m middle-aged and I have my son’s diagnosis process to thank for the epiphany of having it as well. Since then all the research that I have done has explained so much of why my life has gone the way it has and why I am the way I am. Funny thing is I’m a self dubbed Google Queen yet I never thought (in my life) to Google how I should move until today. Except this time I was able to add ADHD to the search. Marie kondos book is fantastic except I stopped halfway when it came time to sort through all the papers and the little things. Lol that was 2 years ago, but I’ve since rid myself of a lot but still a lot to do.
Thank you again.
Thank you so much for this! The 15 minute interval packing is a godsend. I have just been walking around from room to room scratching my head or just carrying one item. People who do not suffer from ADHD have no clue how extra debilitating and daunting a task like moving can be. Any tips for throwing items out as well? That too is a rough one and I didn’t even think I was a hoarder b/c I keep such a tidy house.
O M G ! I am just now in the process of moving and have been so overwhelmed I didn’t know where to start! Thank you soooooo much for this list and all the great info you included with it, Jacqui !! 🙂
Lol! What wonderful time Katie, so glad its helpful!
Thank you for this list! Do you have one for managing a work day?
Thanks 😄
Hi Jodie! there isn’t one at the moment Jodie, but leave it with me..I will write one in the next few weeks.