Is It Better to Date Someone With ADHD or Without?

Is it better if people with ADHD have a partner who has ADHD as well? Does dating people without ADHD makes us harder to communicate or relate to? Thanks in advance! 😉

This is a great question! And the quick answer is… it depends. Dating and having a longterm relationship is complex, and there isnt a simple answer.

There are pros and cons to dating people with and without  ADHD. Here is a snapshot of some of them. [Read more…]

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    Struggling to come to terms with your ADHD diagnosis?

    When people say they are struggling to come to terms with their ADHD diagnosis, what they usually mean is they are trying to include this new piece of information into their identity.

    Identity is who you are, how you think about yourself and how other people see you. It includes your personality traits, strengths and weaknesses, personal preferences, and how you see the world. Even if we aren’t aware of it, our identity is really important to us. That’s one reason why identity theft is so distressing.

    If you have recently been diagnosed with ADHD there is a lot to take on board.

    You have a condition with an actual name.

    That can feel like a huge relief. Now you know why you are the way you are.

    It also involves dismantling your old view of yourself. For example, to make sense of your differences for all these years, you might have concluded it’s because you are ‘stupid’ or ‘dizzy’ or ‘clumsy.’

    Now you know those things aren’t true, which is awesome! But it takes time before a new more accurate description feels like it belongs to you.
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    ADHD and SAD

    ADHD and Seasonal Affective DisorderThe winter of 2013/14 was a particularly brutal winter here in Montreal. The cold weather started earlier than usual and went on and on. It seemed to be a never ending winter. That year, I had an unprecedented amount of clients suffering with depression. I had already had a sneaky suspicion that adults with ADHD were more prone to get SAD than the non-ADHD population, and a little research backed up my hunch.

    You are more likely to experience SAD if you have ADHD.

    Seasonal Affective Disorder or SAD is a form of depression. It is triggered by the reduction of sunlight and colder temperatures that come with the change of seasons. These environmental changes spark a change in your circadian rhythm. [Read more…]

    New to ADHD?

    I am not a techie.

    In fact I hate getting new gadgets, because then I have to figure out how to use them. The learning curve feels annoying rather than exciting to me.

    My friend Phil is the opposite. He loves that stuff.

    If ever I run into a tech problem, I have a 2 step process.

    [Read more…]

    6 Tips for ADHDers Who Don’t Like Lists

    Last week’s article was all about lists – how some people love them while others hate them, and the dangers of an ‘everything list.’ You can read it here.

    Because lists are such a helpful tool when you are living with ADHD, this article has 6 tips for ADHDers who don’t currently like lists.

    1. Alternatives to lists

    Lists by their very nature are linear, which can feel constraining to the creative ADHD brain.

    Because one item is written underneath the next, there can be an internal pressure to think your thoughts in order or in categories.

    For example, if you are writing a list about moving, you might feel the need to write the ‘to dos’ related to your old home before the ‘to dos’ for your new home.

    If your brain doesn’t work in this linear way, it can create a mental log jam. That feels frustrating and leads you to conclude lists don’t work for you.

    A great solution for this is to separate the brainstorming from organizing/categorizing. When they are separate steps, it removes mental blocks and you can get all your great ideas onto paper.

    Here are two ways to do this. Both are visual and fun to do.

    [Read more…]

    ADHD and Lists: Do You Love or Hate Them?

    People living with ADHD often have a love-hate relationship with lists. Some people love them, others hate them and another group fluctuates between loving and hating depending on the day.

    What is a list anyway?

    A list is a number of items written down vertically, one item underneath the previous one. Lists can be on paper or pixel and are often created around a theme. For example, people to invite to a party; items to pack for a trip. [Read more…]

    ADHD and Caffeine

    ADHD and CaffeineIs it ok to drink caffeine when you have ADHD?

    Caffeine is a stimulant, but unlike other stimulants, such as nicotine, cocaine and prescribed meds (including ADHD medication) is widely used and socially accepted.

    Caffeine, whether it’s in coffee, tea, chocolate, Coca-Cola or energy drinks, like Red Bull,  make you feel more alert, happy and energetic. This is because it stimulates the sympathetic nervous system and you feel its effects in your body and brain. [Read more…]

    ADHD in the Workplace

    A few weeks ago, Jobbio.com asked if I would write a guest blog post for them about ADHD in the workplace. Always happy to spread the word about ADHD, I said yes.

    The article is called

    8 Ways Employers can Make The Workplace More ADHD-Friendly

    The article is for bosses and managers who have ADHD employees on their team.

    However! Even if you aren’t a manager or boss it is still worth reading as it has some ideas for you too. [Read more…]