How To Tell Someone You Have ADHD

 

When you are first diagnosed with ADHD, there are some
people in your life you will share the news with without a second thought. These are the people in your inner circle – perhaps your wife or husband, parents, kids or very close friends.

There are also some people you will probably never tell. These are people who are negative, closed minded, mean spirited, or have said negative things about ADHD in the past.

Then there are people who aren’t in either of these groups. You are close, but they aren’t in your inner circle, or you might not have known them when you were diagnosed.

It feels strange they don’t know this important detail about you. Yet you aren’t sure the best way to tell them. [Read more…]

7 Secrets From a Very Successful ADHDer

7 Secrets from a Very Successful ADHDerIt is always interesting to learn what habits successful people have and how they think. Particularly if they have ADHD.  One of my favorite podcasts, ‘Spartan Up’ interviewed ADHDer, Sir Richard Branson.

Billionaire, Richard Branson has experienced huge business success as the founder of the Virgin group. He is also successful in other areas of life, including a happy marriage of over 30 years, close relationships with his adult children, his humanitarian work, and excellent physical health.

Whatever your definition of success is, the things Richard Branson does and how he thinks, will help you with your ADHD and your life goals. [Read more…]

How to Prioritize Self-Care When You Have ADHD

How to Prioritize Self-Care When You Have ADHDThe term self-care can conjure up images of luxury spa treatments and exotic island retreats. In reality though, self-care is about practical day to day actions that make sure you are well looked after.

Self-Care is care for you by you. 

It is knowing what your needs are, then making sure those needs are met.  Those needs range from eating food regularly, taking a shower,  developing communication skills and doing activities that make you happy.

If you don’t look after yourself, it is easy to become physically depleted, emotionally exhausted, resentful, depressed or angry, which in turn can mean your ADHD symptoms get  worse, relationships suffer and performance at work  suffers.

Adults with ADHD are often good at looking after other people but not so good at treating themselves with the same care and attention. [Read more…]

How to Prioritize When You Have ADHD

Prioritizing is a skill that doesn’t come naturally to many people living with ADHD so it takes on almost a mythical quality.

Prioritizing simply means ‘deciding which task is more important than others so you can work on it first.’

Prioritizing is a practical skill that helps you work on the tasks that are connected to moving your life forward in the direction you want it to go.

A to-do list is a helpful way to capture all your ‘to-dos.’ But! If you can prioritize your list and complete the items in order of importance, your productivity, sense of accomplishment and confidence is raised to whole new level!
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Is There a Stigma Attached to ADHD?

Even though I wish it weren’t true, ADHD is a condition that carries a certain stigma.

The good news is that the stigma is slowly shrinking thanks to research and an increased understanding about the condition.

A stigma is described as ‘something that carries shame, is looked down on, or is not respected or valued.’

How much stigma a person living with ADHD faces, depends on the country they live in and how open-minded the people around them are.
Some countries are reluctant to recognize ADHD in adults. This means it is hard to find the appropriate health professionals and get accommodations in the workplace or universities. It also means the general public is less inclined to take ADHD seriously.

Although things are better in countries where adult ADHD is recognized, misconceptions about ADHD and stereotypes continue.

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ADHD and SAD

ADHD and Seasonal Affective DisorderThe winter of 2013/14 was a particularly brutal winter here in Montreal. The cold weather started earlier than usual and went on and on. It seemed to be a never ending winter. That year, I had an unprecedented amount of clients suffering with depression. I had already had a sneaky suspicion that adults with ADHD were more prone to get SAD than the non-ADHD population, and a little research backed up my hunch.

You are more likely to experience SAD if you have ADHD.

Seasonal Affective Disorder or SAD is a form of depression. It is triggered by the reduction of sunlight and colder temperatures that come with the change of seasons. These environmental changes spark a change in your circadian rhythm. [Read more…]

ADHD and Lists: Do You Love or Hate Them?

People living with ADHD often have a love-hate relationship with lists. Some people love them, others hate them and another group fluctuates between loving and hating depending on the day.

What is a list anyway?

A list is a number of items written down vertically, one item underneath the previous one. Lists can be on paper or pixel and are often created around a theme. For example, people to invite to a party; items to pack for a trip. [Read more…]

Do Your Thoughts Stop You Taking Action?

Are you constantly second guessing yourself? Do you question your ability to do a task even though other people know you are capable of it? This happens to so many people with ADHD. It results in procrastination, feelings of resistance and ambiguity, anxiety, guilt and emotional torment. It’s a classic case of getting in your own way.

If this happens to you, the long term goal is to increase your self-esteem. Then, you will believe in yourself and the resistance will disperse. In the meantime, here are 5 things you can do right now to start taking action and meet your deadlines.

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ADHD and Don’t Break the Chain!

Motivation is the urge ‘to do’ something. Lots of people with ADHD, find they don’t feel motivated to take action until a deadline is looming.

Then there is a sense of urgency, as they race against the clock. The neurotransmitter dopamine is released so they can focus and prioritize. Everything unrelated to goal is blocked out until the task is completed.

When the project is finish they breathe a sigh of relief, feel victorious and vow never to let that happen again. And really mean it! However, when the next project comes along, getting started is just as difficult.

Creating a deadlines for yourself before the actual deadline sounds like a good way round this, but you know these aren’t a ‘real’ so these personal deadlines don’t provide the same motivation.

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