The ADHDers Gift Guide

If your mind usually goes blank when a loved one asks what you would like for Christmas, this wish list will give you ideas. The 10 items will help you and your ADHD, so that 2018 is a really awesome year for you.

In order for an item to be included, it had to be affordable and solve an ADHD challenge. If you have an item that you love, let me know and I will include it on the blog. [Read more…]

The 5 steps to deal with letdown when you have ADHD

There is an article on the Untapped Brilliance blog called ‘ADHD and Letting People Down.’ It talks about why classic ADHD behaviour like forgetfulness, low motivation and missing deadlines can mean, despite your best intentions, that people in your life feel let down.

But what about when people let YOU down? When you are living with ADHD, you are more likely to tolerate people continuously letting you down for 3 reasons. [Read more…]

ADHD and Self-Sabotage 

Sabotage means to ‘deliberately destroy.’  To self-sabotage, means doing things (actions, thought patterns, etc.) that stop us from achieving our goals. The tricky thing about self-sabotage is that we aren’t always aware that we are doing it. On the surface, self-sabotage can look like you are being rational or logical.

For example, if your goal is to lose weight, you might buy a box of doughnuts ‘for guests’ and then keep them by the coffee machine where they are tempting you every time you walk by.

A Common ADHD Thought Pattern

This article is about common self-sabotage thought patterns that I have seen so many times they deserve their own article. [Read more…]

Is There a Stigma Attached to ADHD?

Even though I wish it weren’t true, ADHD is a condition that carries a certain stigma.

The good news is that the stigma is slowly shrinking thanks to research and an increased understanding about the condition.

A stigma is described as ‘something that carries shame, is looked down on, or is not respected or valued.’

How much stigma a person living with ADHD faces, depends on the country they live in and how open-minded the people around them are.
Some countries are reluctant to recognize ADHD in adults. This means it is hard to find the appropriate health professionals and get accommodations in the workplace or universities. It also means the general public is less inclined to take ADHD seriously.

Although things are better in countries where adult ADHD is recognized, misconceptions about ADHD and stereotypes continue.

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Is It Better to Date Someone With ADHD or Without?

Is it better if people with ADHD have a partner who has ADHD as well? Does dating people without ADHD makes us harder to communicate or relate to? Thanks in advance! 😉

This is a great question! And the quick answer is… it depends. Dating and having a longterm relationship is complex, and there isnt a simple answer.

There are pros and cons to dating people with and without  ADHD. Here is a snapshot of some of them. [Read more…]

 Adult ADHD 101

Just been diagnosed with ADHD? this mini book will answer all your burning questions. 

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    Struggling to come to terms with your ADHD diagnosis?

    When people say they are struggling to come to terms with their ADHD diagnosis, what they usually mean is they are trying to include this new piece of information into their identity.

    Identity is who you are, how you think about yourself and how other people see you. It includes your personality traits, strengths and weaknesses, personal preferences, and how you see the world. Even if we aren’t aware of it, our identity is really important to us. That’s one reason why identity theft is so distressing.

    If you have recently been diagnosed with ADHD there is a lot to take on board.

    You have a condition with an actual name.

    That can feel like a huge relief. Now you know why you are the way you are.

    It also involves dismantling your old view of yourself. For example, to make sense of your differences for all these years, you might have concluded it’s because you are ‘stupid’ or ‘dizzy’ or ‘clumsy.’

    Now you know those things aren’t true, which is awesome! But it takes time before a new more accurate description feels like it belongs to you.
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    New to ADHD?

    I am not a techie.

    In fact I hate getting new gadgets, because then I have to figure out how to use them. The learning curve feels annoying rather than exciting to me.

    My friend Phil is the opposite. He loves that stuff.

    If ever I run into a tech problem, I have a 2 step process.

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    6 Tips for ADHDers Who Don’t Like Lists

    Last week’s article was all about lists – how some people love them while others hate them, and the dangers of an ‘everything list.’ You can read it here.

    Because lists are such a helpful tool when you are living with ADHD, this article has 6 tips for ADHDers who don’t currently like lists.

    1. Alternatives to lists

    Lists by their very nature are linear, which can feel constraining to the creative ADHD brain.

    Because one item is written underneath the next, there can be an internal pressure to think your thoughts in order or in categories.

    For example, if you are writing a list about moving, you might feel the need to write the ‘to dos’ related to your old home before the ‘to dos’ for your new home.

    If your brain doesn’t work in this linear way, it can create a mental log jam. That feels frustrating and leads you to conclude lists don’t work for you.

    A great solution for this is to separate the brainstorming from organizing/categorizing. When they are separate steps, it removes mental blocks and you can get all your great ideas onto paper.

    Here are two ways to do this. Both are visual and fun to do.

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