Mar 8

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Organizing yourself at work so that you can achieve what you know you are capable of is a challenge for adults with ADHD. However there are five simple techniques that are easy to implement, and the results will leave you feeling productive and proud of yourself.

Whiteboard -People with ADHD like to be able to see all the projects they are working on at once in case they forget one. Since it’s not usually possible to have all your projects in clear sight and maintain a tidy work environment, a whiteboard is a great office accessory. It will help to stay on track and not forget anything. Use your board to write down all your on going projects and update it regularly.

Timer -Use a simple kitchen timer to help keep you on tasks for work that requires concentration. Concentrating takes lots of effort so it’s natural to want to avoid it. However if you know you only have to concentrate until your timer rings, tasks are no longer overwhelming. Set your timer for 30 minutes at a time. Only work on that task until the timer goes off. If you feel like checking email, picking up the phone or taking a walk… do it after your timer goes off.

An Idea’s Notebook -When you are working on a task, it’s easy to get distracted with lots of thoughts, ideas, and worries about the tasks that you aren’t working on. Have an idea’s book next to you and jot those thoughts down and then go back to the original task. You will be able to focus much better, safe in the knowledge you won’t forget those concerns. Using a notebook not a piece of paper is much preferable since it’s less likely to get lost.

Healthy Snack -No matter how well intentioned you are, you won’t be able to concentrate or focus if you are hungry. Keep a good supply of non perishable healthy snacks close to hand and never let yourself get too hungry, almonds, raisins and V8 are a few examples.

Clutter Free Environment - This can be tricky at first, but once you have experienced how happy you feel when you walk into your office and you see clear surfaces and the floor, there is no going back. Nothing distracts you, or makes you feel overwhelmed and eats into your time like clutter. Take 15 minutes a day to clean your office and then once it’s ship shape spend a few minutes each day doing maintenance.

Mar 6

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This week I was interviewed by the wonderful business coach Marica Hoeck on the subject of ADHD and entrepreneurs . Thanks so much to everyone for your feedback.  Above is a photo of (right to left) Marica, myself and Katie Weber, a Feng shui expert having dinner in LA just over a year ago.

Whether you are an entrepreneur or work for someone else, this weeks article is about the 5 must haves in your office so that you are able to be the most productive you can be.

Mar 2

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People with ADHD are very hard on themselves and spend a lot of time thinking about and doing what they aren’t good at. However, the more time you spend working with your strengths and talents, (rather than battling with the things that are hard for you) you will notice not only will life be easier, your confidence and self esteem will increase, and your life will be much more joyful.

If you have ADHD then it’s highly likely that you undervalue your natural strengths. But remember, just because something comes easily to you doesn’t mean that it’s easy for everyone or it isn’t a valuable strength.

You might spend so much time focusing on your weaknesses that you don’t even know what your strengths are, or worse, still don’t think you have any. I can guarantee you have strengths.

  1. Get a big piece of paper and write down 50 things you know you are good at or that you really enjoy doing. Usually they are the same thing, but not always. For example, you might really enjoy doing math because you are good at it and you get a buzz when you solve a problem. You might also love singing in the shower because it makes you feel happy and energetic, but also know that your dog has its paws over its ears.
  2. Include on your list, tasks at work, at home and hobbies. It’s easy to lump everything together and say well I hate my job but when you break it down you will find that there are elements you are good at, and elements you aren’t. For example you might be really good at impro-presentation, but dislike writing long detailed reports.
  3. If you are struggling to come up with 50, ask your family and friends for there ideas too.
  4. With your completed list think how you can incorporate more of those 50 into your daily life. If you like cooking perhaps you will do more cooking at home and less eating out. If you like cleaning the bathroom but hate doing laundry speak to the people in your household and make arrangements.
  5. While each item might seem small, when they are accumulated they represent a big part of your life and you will notice a significant and positive shift in your life.  Rather like a snowflake which is tiny on its own but when there are many together they can form together to make a fun snowman or create havoc on the roads.

Start to focus on your strengths this very minute!.

Feb 27
Thank you everyone who sent birthday wishes! I was so touched and I had a wonderful birthday weekend in Vegas!
 
One of my all time favourite things to do is visit  the theatre and in Vegas I did this 3 nights in a row. I was in heaven. All the shows I saw were Cirque du soleil performances which are a wonderful combination of circus and street performers with incredible costumes and music.
 
One thing I noticed was that each performer focused purely on what they were good at. For example, the trapeze artists perform incredible stunts and fly high in the air. The dancers focused their time and energy on the ground. The performers didn’t multi-task. That would have taken away from what they were naturally good at and highly trained to do.
 
Adults with ADHD have a bad habit  of trying to do everything and this leaves little time or energy for you to excel at what you are naturally good at. Today’s article is all about focusing on what you are good at.

Next Wednesday, the 3rd of March I am being interviewed by Marica Hoeck, expert business coach, on how to be a successful entrepreneur when you have ADHD. If you would like to join us scroll down for more information.

 

 

Wednesday, March 3, 2009 at 2:00 pm EST

“The Surprising Similarities Between Entrepreneurs
and Adults with ADHD: How to Minimize the Negative
and Appreciate the Gifts”

with Jacqueline Sinfield of Untapped Brilliance,
Montreal, Quebec, Canada

To register for the call, go here:
http://clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=4o08Z&m=1a6kwsKIaWTrOO&b=Z7pqyoYwF2XpT2XXlqfBAw

If you can’t make the time, sign up anyway,
and you’ll get access to the recording,
which will be available as soon as the
class is over.

Feb 23

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Adults with ADHD often dislike their birthdays. It’s a reminder that their life isn’t where they want it to be compared to the lives of their non ADD friends.  It could be that they are really bad at remembering other peoples birthdays, so don’t feel theirs deserves to be remembered.  Or, the universal concern, that they don’t like how the passing of years is affecting their body. Or maybe, their self esteem is low and don’t feel they want to have a lot of fuss. Birthdays are symbolic and worthy of celebrating. It’s a chance to celebrate your life, so why not create an extra special day for yourself?  

In the western world birthdays are often celebrated with cakes, gifts, flowers, cards and balloons. However it is your day, so you get to choose how to celebrate it to reflect your own tastes and style.   Here are some ideas how you can start to enjoy your birthdays again.

1. Take the day off work.

2. Take a few minutes to reflect on your last year achievements, things that you did, experienced, etc. You will always be surprised at how much you did.  

3. Plan some things you would like to do in the next year, start a new hobby, etc.  

4. Allow others to pamper and spoil you. 

5. Have a birthday party so that you can be with those that you love the most. It’s fine to host it for yourself.  

6. Create a wonderful memory on your birthday. Do something that you will remember forever. 

7. Think back to when you were little, what did you look forward to about your birthday? A birthday cake? Balloons? Whatever it was make sure you include that in your day this year.

8. Today is the day that others get to show you how special you are to them. No matter how hard this is for you, let them. 

9.  If noticing your body aging is upsetting you check out www.realage.com This will empower you to start turning back the aging clock.  

10. If you feel you are behind in life, write down the areas of your life that give you this feeling. This will give you a base to take action. For example, if you write financial, book an appointment with a financial adviser to create plan.  

When you celebrate your day, make it special for yourself, as well as enjoying the attention from your loved ones.  You will feel loved and rejuvenated and ready to make the next year an incredible one.

Feb 19

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I am in Vegas!!! And its super fun. The reason for the trip is to celebrate my birthday.

As a child this week in February was very exciting as my sister, brother and I all celebrate our birthdays in the space of five days. Because we were young, and because we were all still lived in our family home, there seemed to be an extra intensity to our excitement. Even though we now are living in different parts of the world, we all still celebrate our birthdays in quite a big way.

The older I get the more I realize just how many people would rather forget their special day. However, just because you don’t celebrate on your birthday doesn’t mean that you can stop the years passing by!. So why not embrace your day?

While it might not be your birthday this week.. I hope this week’s article will inspire you to create a wonderful day not only for your next birthday but for all birthdays to come.

Feb 15

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As an adult with ADHD, it is very easy to focus on your weaknesses and areas “to be worked on.” So much thought can be given to these areas that it’s easy to forget about your talents. Many adults with ADHD are humble to a fault and dismiss their talents because they come so easily. Naturally, they don’t feel they can be proud of these traits, or that they aren’t valuable. Nothing could be further from the truth. When you notice what you are good at, you can spend more time utilizing your strengths and less time worrying about your weaknesses.

Just like adults without ADHD, there are many strengths you might have. Here are just five examples of things that might resonate with you.

  1. High Energy    If you have the hyperactivity component of ADHD, it might have diminished a little compared to when you were a child, but it’s way more than most people! When channeled on one project, you can work for hours and in a way that leaves people without ADHD both exhausted and in awe of you.
  2. Hyperfocus    When something captures your attention, you can focus on it for hours. The ability to mentally tune out distractions and become so focused means you can get a lot done, as well as have a huge sense of satisfaction afterwards. This is similar to what Czech psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi calls “Flow.” Time disappears and your actions flow from you.
  3. Creativity    You think outside the box and aren’t constricted by the “norm” and what has traditionally been done. This can be great in any situation, from an office brainstorming session to decorating your house to creating a new invention that can positively change the world.
  4. Sense of Humor    As an adult with ADHD, there is a high chance that you have a good sense of humor. Humor comes in many packages: loud, boisterous Jim Carey types or quieter, witty types. Finding humor in everyday situations makes the world a happier place. People with ADHD often have a ready smile and can be funny as well as appreciative of other people’s humor.
  5. Sensitivity    Adults with ADHD tend to be a sensitive bunch. Sensitivity is not a trait that is glorified in our culture, but it is a wonderful quality. It means you can easily relate to other people, have a natural empathy to how they are feeling and are able to act accordingly. It also means that you are a good judge of character, which in turn has many benefits too.

This Weeks Actions

  1. What talents come easily to you? Remember, they might be so effortless to you that you don’t value them. If you aren’t sure, ask close friends and family to help you identify them.
  2. For each of the five points above, ask yourself:
    • Is this a trait I have?
    • When have I noticed/experienced it recently?
    • How could I maximize this trait and use it more to my advantage?
  3. Notice how your life becomes more enjoyable and effortless when you work with your strengths.
Feb 13

Today is a big day for me because I will be sitting my Canadian Citizenship exam. I have been busy preparing for it this week and learning lots about Canada in the process.

If you like arts and crafts and live in the Montreal area why not pop in to an Arts and Crafts show this weekend? One of my amazing clients is selling her handmade handbags for the first time there.  It’s being held on Sat Feb.13 and Sun Feb 14 at St. Micheal’s church on St. Viateur corner St. Urbain from 10 am to 5 pm.

Wishing you a wonderful week!

Feb 9

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February 2nd is Groundhog Day. The tradition is that if the groundhog sees his shadow, there will be six more weeks of winter.

The 1993 movie Groundhog Day has Bill Murray playing a grumpy meteorologist who covers a story on Groundhog Day in Punxsutawney, Pennsylvania. Murray hates the town and its cheery residents, so when he gets struck living the same day again and again, it’s somewhat of a nightmare.

The interesting thing is that many of us experience our own Groundhog Day effect. We live out the same day after day. We repeat things again and again, even if they make us miserable and unhealthy. We want change and even promise ourselves, “Okay, so tomorrow I will do…” But actual change doesn’t happen because habits are so entrenched in our lives. Creating new ones feels particularly impossible, even though in our head, the new ideas look and feel great.

Four years ago, I knew there were some BIG changes I needed to make. I thought about them for months and finally I changed one thing. I moved offices from a shared space to my very own. Once I made one big change in my life, the resistance to change had been broken. That same month, I ended a long-term relationship and moved houses. While these changes were big ones, yours don’t need to be. Take a few minutes now to think about what changes you would like in your life. What changes in your life do you need to make so you aren’t experiencing your very own Ground Hog Day? More exercise? More fun? Less stress? Start a new hobby, get a new job, meet some new friends?

If making changes in your life is really hard, start small. Making a big change, such as finding a new job, can be scary, particularly if you have been in the same position for a long time. Start to shake things up, but in a gentle, non-threatening way. Don’t do anything about moving jobs until you feel inspired or excited. Start making changes in your life that are completely unrelated to the new job. Move some furniture around at home, try a new recipe, mix up your routine at the gym, order a different meal at your favourite restaurant, read a book by a new author. This way you are building up your “change muscle.” Your body and mind will become used to new and different things and then bigger changes will become easy and often fun and exciting.

Change is revitalizing, refreshing and it boosts your self-esteem and confidence. It can also make us happier and more youthful?

What small change are you going to implement tomorrow to break out of your Groundhog Day?

Feb 2

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As an ADHD coach I am always looking for helpful resources that will help your ADHD challenges. Here are 3 great websites that will help make life easy and even fun.

1)      www.passpack.com
Remembering things is a real challenge for adults with ADHD.  Passpack is  simple tool that is designed solely for  you to store  all your passwords and user names for all your favourite websites. It’s sercue, free, and can be accessed from every computer you use. A word of warning, don’t forget your password to Passpack!!!..because of its secure nature, if you forget this password there is no way to retrieve it.
  
2)      www.zip.ca
People with ADHD love watching movies. Perhaps because it’s a good way to escape your busy mind for a couple of hours, or if you are watching a movie at home it keeps you company and makes doing mundane tasks more interesting. However it is easy  return movies late and then incur late fees.

There are companies now that send your chosen movies to you in the mail box. You watch it and return it in a pre-paid envelope. No late fees, and there are 1000’s of movies to choose from. If you live in Canada,  Zip.ca is a great service. If you live in another country google ‘movies delivered to your door’ and a similar service will be listed.
  
3)      www.freecycle.org
Clutter is a huge problem for people with ADHD! One of the reasons clutter is hoarded in your home is that it can be hard to part with your belongings. Knowing that a special, but no longer used, item of yours is going to a good home really helps to release it. The phrase ‘one mans junk is another mans treasure’ is so true. Freecycle.org is a website that allows you to give an item of yours to a person in your area . The idea is that for every item that has found a new home, means one item less in a landfill. Word of warning.. this is a really great resource! and when you see what other people are giving away it can be tempting to want to add belonging to your home… Be mindful of this!

Your challenge this week is to visit each website and see if you think it would be helpful to your life. .

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