Having ADHD is nothing to be ashamed of. That being said, many people worry about telling someone (or many people) they have ADHD. This is understandable, as even the people that love you the most, can react negatively when you tell them.
Before telling someone you have ADHD, ask yourself, do you really want this person to know? Just because you have been diagnosed with ADHD doesn’t mean that you have to tell people. Tell people because you want to, because it would help them to understand you better, etc.; but not because you feel obligated.
Instead of simply saying ‘I have ADHD’, try this method instead:
Ask the person a question to find out how much they know about ADHD. For example, “What do you know about ADHD?” or “How much do you know about ADHD?” Listen carefully to their reply.
Asking an open question like this will let you know 2 things: Their attitude towards ADHD and their factual knowledge about it.
Attitude towards ADHD
Attitude is everything! As they are replying to your question, you will quickly know if they are anti-ADHD or open-minded and compassionate about it. There are still a lot of people who don’t believe it exists, or that it’s something people use as an excuse for being lazy (I know!)
Factual Knowledge About ADHD
There are still lots of misconceptions about ADHD. For example, some people still think only children have it and that adults don’t. Others know about hyperactive ADHD and not inattentive ADHD.
Some people know a person with ADHD, so they know how it affects that person and think that is how ADHD shows up for everyone.
Once you know the person’s attitude, you can decide if you want to continue to tell them you have ADHD. Remember, you don’t have to!
When you know their knowledge base, you can fill in the blanks and explain how ADHD shows up in your life. Even if a person is really knowledgeable, they don’t know how it affects you personally.
This method does take a little more time; however, it is worth it as it results in a positive experience for both of you.