If you are diagnosed with ADHD, it’s something you have for life. This might seem like bad news if you are struggling right now. However, it doesn’t need to be!
Some people manage and treat their ADHD so well; they think they must have outgrown it.
They haven’t; instead, they created a life that works to their advantage. Problems related to their ADHD are camouflaged so well they seem to have disappeared. For some people, this happened almost by accident, while others worked hard to design their life to suit them.
Here are some tips so that you can do this too!
Your work environment is one of the most important areas of your life, because you spend a lot of your time there. Be sure to match your job to your strengths and personality.
At school, many hyperactive children get into trouble for not being able to sit still and instead, talking to their friends. Working in an office and sitting at a desk for 8 hours would be torture. Yet a sales job where you travel around and visit clients in their offices and no 2 days are the same, would be great because you are getting paid to do what you love.
People with inattentive ADHD often get feedback that they are ‘slow’ and take too long to perform a task. Rather than having a job where speed is required, work somewhere that your pace is seen as an asset. Instead of criticism, you would hear, ‘wow, they are so conscientious and patient; they have all the time in the world for their clients’.
Many people with ADHD struggle to wake up in the morning. Instead of working someplace where they start at 7:30 am and being reprimanded for being late, they work at jobs where they have ‘flexi time’, or where the work culture starts later and finishes later than the traditional 9-5.
When you directly treat and manage your ADHD, the symptoms reduce. Daily exercise, eating protein for breakfast and taking Omega 3, getting enough sleep and meditation are all super helpful. The trick to doing these things everyday is either make them so fun you can’t wait to do them, or they become so part of your routine, they happen automatically, like brushing your teeth.
Spend time with people who think you are awesome! Spend zero time with people who criticize you or put you down. All your life, you might have heard that you were ‘too sensitive for your own good’ or have ‘too much energy’ or ‘ you talk enough for 2 people’.
Everything is relative. Rather than hanging out with people that grumble about your energy, spend time with people that are impressed with it or have even more than you do.
I know some people with ADHD who are quiet and find making conversation hard work. Their favourite type of person is someone who loves to talk.
When you are with people who love you just as you are, you will feel more valued and loved. You stop feeling bad about yourself. Then, something really crazy happens! Your ADHD improves!
When you are trying to avoid criticism by being on your best behaviour, your ADHD gets worse. But when you are relaxed and happy, it improves. Isn’t that a silver lining?
When you are comfortable with yourself and your ADHD, you don’t mind when you make mistakes. You deal with it matter–of–factly. If you lose your wallet, you phone the bank and cancel your cards. If you forget where you parked your car, you look for it. You don’t get mad about it, or talk to yourself so meanly that it takes weeks to recover. You manage your ADHD, learn strategies and tricks to help you. So then, when something happens, you can trust yourself to handle it and you don’t see it as a personal failing.
What do you do that helps your ADHD ‘disappear?’