Don’t Let The Naysayers Stop you!

Don't let the Naysayers Stop you!

 

Have you noticed how powerful a naysayer can be?

They are the people who see the glass half empty, say negative and mean things about what you are doing. It’s almost as if they know when you are feeling happy, doing something fun, healthy or good for yourself, then they pull out all the stops to bring you down.

Naysayers come in different forms. Sometimes they are people who are close to you, other times, they might be an acquaintance on Facebook or a person you don’t know personally like a journalist or author.

One thing they have in common is that they can burst your bubble and get you to question what you are doing. Or worse, stop you in your tracks completely. [Read more…]

The ADHD Traveler’s Checklist

I got a great question this week,

“Do you have any helpful info to help the ADD person plan and PACK for a trip? It’s hellish for me.”

Actually, I do!!

Many ADHDers have a love/hate relationship with travel and the holidays. Some love the adventure and novelty; others hate the disruption to their daily routine.

Even ADHDers who love going on trips can find the planning and preparation involved challenging. In order to have an enjoyable, stress free trip with minimal unexpected surprises, some planning and attention to details are helpful.  Since both of those can be tricky when you are living with ADHD, I created a list to help you! [Read more…]

Can you have ADD and ADHD?

Can you have ADD and ADHD?

 

Great question! The answer is yes…and  no.

Let’s start with,

‘No it’s not possible to have both ADD and ADHD.’

If someone told you,  ‘I have Chickenpox and Chickenpox,’ it would sound strange because they are telling you something twice.

The same is true if you say,  ‘I have ADD and ADHD’ because they are two names for the same condition. [Read more…]

5 Ways ‘Eating a Frog’ Helps Your Productivity

Fun frog

Have you noticed how important the first hour of your workday is? It sets the tone for the rest of your workday in terms of your productivity and mood.

If you check Facebook, chat to co-workers, get busy doing easy but low value tasks, you can trick yourself into believing you are busy. However, by mid-morning you might notice an uneasy feeling sneaking up on you. There is a sense that your day is slipping away, and you still have some important tasks looming.

In contrast, on days when you dive into the most important task first, you feel empowered. When you cross it off your to-do list, you feel a rush of positive emotions, and they can stay with you for the rest of the day.
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Do Your Thoughts Stop You Taking Action?

Are you constantly second guessing yourself? Do you question your ability to do a task even though other people know you are capable of it? This happens to so many people with ADHD. It results in procrastination, feelings of resistance and ambiguity, anxiety, guilt and emotional torment. It’s a classic case of getting in your own way.

If this happens to you, the long term goal is to increase your self-esteem. Then, you will believe in yourself and the resistance will disperse. In the meantime, here are 5 things you can do right now to start taking action and meet your deadlines.

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ADHD and Don’t Break the Chain!

Motivation is the urge ‘to do’ something. Lots of people with ADHD, find they don’t feel motivated to take action until a deadline is looming.

Then there is a sense of urgency, as they race against the clock. The neurotransmitter dopamine is released so they can focus and prioritize. Everything unrelated to goal is blocked out until the task is completed.

When the project is finish they breathe a sigh of relief, feel victorious and vow never to let that happen again. And really mean it! However, when the next project comes along, getting started is just as difficult.

Creating a deadlines for yourself before the actual deadline sounds like a good way round this, but you know these aren’t a ‘real’ so these personal deadlines don’t provide the same motivation.

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Which Professionals Should I Work With When I have ADHD?

Which Professionals Should I work with when I have ADHD?When you have ADHD, it is good to create a professional support team. Each professional has their area of expertise and can help you in your quest to treat and manage your ADHD effectively.

Who you see and when will depend on where you are on your ADHD journey. A person who has been recently diagnosed might see more professionals at a greater frequency than someone who has been actively treating their ADHD for several years.
Also, ADHD is not a stagnant condition, it changes with age and can be affected by what is happening in your life. You might need more support when your life changes (a baby, new job, a relationship) than when your life is more settled. [Read more…]

Happiness, Success and ADHD

ADDers can be very hard on themselves and often feel ‘less than’. Instead of acknowledging what you did today and feeling proud, it is really easy to focus on what you didn’t do instead.

This affects your self-esteem and confidence, lowers your physical energy and makes you sad 🙁

A little while ago a client sent me a video because it reminded her of the work we had been doing together.

It is fascinating! [Read more…]

Housework and ADHD

When you have ADHD, one of the worst tasks imaginable is… housework. It is boring and mundane, 2 things that people with ADHD hate the most.  When you don’t enjoy something there is lots of potential for procrastination and distraction, and a two hour job can drag on all day.

Theoretically housework is not difficult; people without ADHD seem to be able to do it effortlessly, which only makes you feel worse! Now in addition to the piles of dishes and clothes, there is  also guilt and shame too.

ADHD characteristics do make housework hard, but not impossible. Here is a winning ADHD friendly formula that makes housework interesting and even fun. [Read more…]