ADHD and Feeling ‘Behind’ in Life

People living with ADHD often report that they are ‘behind in life.’ This feeling of being ‘behind’ is coupled with feelings of frustration, ‘if only’s and a little despair.

When you feel ‘behind’ it is usually compared to where you thought you would be at this phase of your life, or in comparison to what similar aged friends are doing, or to traditional milestones that are considered normal. For example, graduating at 21 years old, being happily married with children at 30, and retiring at 65. [Read more…]

ADHD and Fun

If I asked you, ‘What do you do for fun?’

How would you reply?

Would your mind go blank?

Or do you have a whole list on the tip of your tongue of things that are fun things for you?

If your mind went blank… you aren’t alone. Most adults have a similar response, unless they have consciously spent time considering this question. [Read more…]

A Simple Tip to Make Your Life Less Complicated

When I was studying psychology, I came across a fascinating study about memory. A group of people who identified themselves as having a good memory were closely studied.

After observing them at home and in their workplace, researchers found this group didn’t have a better memory than other people.

Instead they had created an environment that supported their memory. For example, if they ran out of milk, they had a visual reminder as a memory prompt so they remembered to buy more milk. [Read more…]

How to Decide What to Wear When You Have ADHD

How to Decide What to Wear When You Have ADHDDeciding what to wear in the morning can be hard. However, it can be extra painful when you have ADHD for these reasons.

  1. Decision making is challenging: big and small.
  2.  Mornings aren’t your best time; you might not feel awake for 3 or 4 hours after you get dressed.
  3.  Social rules are a bit of a mystery, so you aren’t sure if  there is a dress code you don’t know about. [Read more…]

ADHD and Meal Planning

When you have ADHD, meal planning can be a logistically challenging! This is because it involves all the things that can be difficult when you have ADHD; like making decisions, paying attention to details and forward planning. However, meal planning is a skill worth developing. Because when you eat healthy, ADHD-friendly food, your unwanted ADHD symptoms can be minimized.

“When I changed the way I ate (as Jacqui recommended), a lot of the things I thought were due to ADHD just disappeared.”
– Mark Kawate

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ADHD and OCD

Sally felt really proud of herself.  For years she felt like her house was looking like a disaster area. Every surface was piled high with papers, shopping bags, paper work and flyers were mixed with important tax documents.

Her floors  had abandoned clothes and half empty boxes from her last move, which was 3 years ago. She was so embarrassed that she never invited friends over.

Then one evening, Sally got frustrated because she couldn’t find a spoon to cook her stir fry. So, she decluttered her spoon drawer.  It felt so good to  have a tidy drawer that over the next year Sally  decluttered and tidied every drawer, shelf, counter top and floor space. [Read more…]

ADHD And The Groundhog Day Cycle

February 2nd is Groundhog Day! Tradition has it that Groundhogs can predict whether winter will continue or spring will come early.

In the 1993 movie, Groundhog Day, Bill Murray plays a grumpy TV meteorologist. He is sent to Punxsutawney, Pennsylvania to report on Groundhog Day. Murray hates the town and its cheery residents so when he gets stuck in a time loop living the same day again and again, it’s somewhat of a nightmare for him. [Read more…]

ADHD, Prospective Memory and Facebook

Keeping and maintaining friends can be a challenge when you have ADHD. One reason is because of the ‘out of sight, out of mind’ factor.  When you are seeing friends every day, perhaps at work or in University classes, it’s easy to stay connected and make a plan to hang out.

However,  if that regular contact changes, you change jobs or graduate, it is very easy to lose touch.  This has nothing to do with the quality of your friendship; instead, it’s due to prospective memory. Dr Ari Tuckman says prospective memory is ‘remembering to remember’.

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ADHD and Remembering Your Belongings

In his book, ‘Scattered Minds’ Dr. Gabor Maté tells a story about a gentleman with ADHD and his dog.  They, like other humans and dogs, go for daily walks together.

In preparation for their walk, the man puts on his coat, shoes and hat,  and the dog stays peacefully under the kitchen table. The man leaves the house, and the dog waits under the table. The man comes back several times for forgotten items, such as keys and wallet.  Then the third time the dog gets up and joins his owner for the walk. This wise dog has gotten the hang of living with an  adult ADHD! [Read more…]