Do Your Thoughts Stop You Taking Action?

Are you constantly second guessing yourself? Do you question your ability to do a task even though other people know you are capable of it? This happens to so many people with ADHD. It results in procrastination, feelings of resistance and ambiguity, anxiety, guilt and emotional torment. It’s a classic case of getting in your own way.

If this happens to you, the long term goal is to increase your self-esteem. Then, you will believe in yourself and the resistance will disperse. In the meantime, here are 5 things you can do right now to start taking action and meet your deadlines.

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ADHD and Don’t Break the Chain!

Motivation is the urge ‘to do’ something. Lots of people with ADHD, find they don’t feel motivated to take action until a deadline is looming.

Then there is a sense of urgency, as they race against the clock. The neurotransmitter dopamine is released so they can focus and prioritize. Everything unrelated to goal is blocked out until the task is completed.

When the project is finish they breathe a sigh of relief, feel victorious and vow never to let that happen again. And really mean it! However, when the next project comes along, getting started is just as difficult.

Creating a deadlines for yourself before the actual deadline sounds like a good way round this, but you know these aren’t a ‘real’ so these personal deadlines don’t provide the same motivation.

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Should You Tell People You Have ADHD?

When you are first diagnosed with ADHD it is common to feel a cocktail of positive emotions, such as relief, excitement and total happiness. You finally understand why you are the way you are and why ‘simple’ things that other people do effortlessly are difficult for you.

In those heady first days, it is tempting to share this new piece of information with everyone.

Before You Do, Proceed With Caution!

Once you have told someone about your ADHD diagnosis, you can’t ‘untell’ them.

There are still misconceptions and prejudices against ADHD, and not everyone is going to be happy to hear that you have ADHD. [Read more…]

Practicing Assertiveness When You Have ADHD

Early one Sunday morning, I was waiting in line at Montreal’s airport. Despite the early hour, the airport was crowded. The lines at each of the security points were unusually long. People were patiently waiting; however, there was an elderly gentleman who became quite distressed as he realized he was going to miss his flight.

He managed to attract the attention of one of the officials and explain his predicament; however, they just shrugged unhelpfully. Then two younger passengers went to the aid of the older man. They asked each person in the queue ahead of him, ‘Would you mind if he jumps ahead of you to catch his flight?’. Of course no one minded, and the man went quickly through security. [Read more…]

A Simple Tip to Make Your Life Less Complicated

When I was studying psychology, I came across a fascinating study about memory. A group of people who identified themselves as having a good memAHDH Life Hackory were closely studied. After observing them at home and in their workplace, researchers found this group didn’t have a better memory than other people. Instead they had created an environment that supported their memory. For example, if they ran out of milk, they had a visual reminder as a memory prompt so they remembered to buy more milk. [Read more…]

5 Steps to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed

The summer I was 18 years old, me and my friend Claire got a job at the local soap factory. The factory hired students every summer to help them prepare their Christmas orders.  Our job was to stand at the end of a conveyor belt and put trays containing an assortment of soaps into gift boxes, one tray per box.

As part of the interview process we had been given a dexterity test to check that we could move our hands quickly. However, that first day, while our head and hands were getting use to this new task, our hands didn’t seem to be moving fast enough.

I remember feeling really overwhelmed every time I looked  down the conveyor belt.  As far as the eye could see there were  gray trays filled with pretty soaps heading towards us. We had to keep moving fast otherwise there would be a log jam.
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Why Rest Days are Vital When You Have ADHD

Why Rest Days are Vital When You Have ADHDWhen you have ADHD, it’s very important to schedule regular recharge days. These are days where you don’t have to do anything except relax.  No commitments; no schedule.  If you are thinking, ‘But I don’t have time for that!’, I guarantee you do. Because if you don’t consciously schedule these types of days, then your body will make sure you get the rest you need anyway. Do any of these sound familiar?

  • Unable to move from the TV for 8 hours
  • Hours of mindless surfing on the internet when you sit down to work
  • Regularly getting sick with a cold or flu bug and having to rest for a few days
  • Unable to tear yourself away from a computer game, puzzle book or novel for hours

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Scared Your Good ADHD Habits Won’t Last?

After I have been working with a client for a little while and they have started to experience success, a strange phenomenon occurs. They enjoy the success at first, “I can’t believe I am finally doing this!” They are thrilled. I am thrilled!

Then fear and doubt creeps in, and they feel scared in case they can’t  keep the new habits and behavior. [Read more…]

Do You Get The Weekend Blahs?

Weekends can be a challenge when you have ADHD.  This might sound counterintuitive, as surely the stressors of a busy work week are trickier than a leisurely weekend

However, ADHDers can find unstructured time unsettling.  Although you might resist the idea of structure, people with ADHD actually do very well with it. [Read more…]