ADHD and Feeling ‘Behind’ in Life

People living with ADHD often report that they are ‘behind in life.’ This feeling of being ‘behind’ is coupled with feelings of frustration, ‘if only’s and a little despair.

When you feel ‘behind’ it is usually compared to where you thought you would be at this phase of your life, or in comparison to what similar aged friends are doing, or to traditional milestones that are considered normal. For example, graduating at 21 years old, being happily married with children at 30, and retiring at 65. [Read more…]

A Simple Tip to Make Your Life Less Complicated

When I was studying psychology, I came across a fascinating study about memory. A group of people who identified themselves as having a good memory were closely studied.

After observing them at home and in their workplace, researchers found this group didn’t have a better memory than other people.

Instead they had created an environment that supported their memory. For example, if they ran out of milk, they had a visual reminder as a memory prompt so they remembered to buy more milk. [Read more…]

How to Decide What to Wear When You Have ADHD

How to Decide What to Wear When You Have ADHDDeciding what to wear in the morning can be hard. However, it can be extra painful when you have ADHD for these reasons.

  1. Decision making is challenging: big and small.
  2.  Mornings aren’t your best time; you might not feel awake for 3 or 4 hours after you get dressed.
  3.  Social rules are a bit of a mystery, so you aren’t sure if  there is a dress code you don’t know about. [Read more…]

ADHD and Meal Planning

When you have ADHD, meal planning can be a logistically challenging! This is because it involves all the things that can be difficult when you have ADHD; like making decisions, paying attention to details and forward planning. However, meal planning is a skill worth developing. Because when you eat healthy, ADHD-friendly food, your unwanted ADHD symptoms can be minimized.

“When I changed the way I ate (as Jacqui recommended), a lot of the things I thought were due to ADHD just disappeared.”
– Mark Kawate

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How to Prioritize Self-Care When You Have ADHD

How to Prioritize Self-Care When You Have ADHDThe term self-care can conjure up images of luxury spa treatments and exotic island retreats. In reality though, self-care is about practical day to day actions that make sure you are well looked after.

Self-Care is care for you by you. 

It is knowing what your needs are, then making sure those needs are met.  Those needs range from eating food regularly, taking a shower,  developing communication skills and doing activities that make you happy.

If you don’t look after yourself, it is easy to become physically depleted, emotionally exhausted, resentful, depressed or angry, which in turn can mean your ADHD symptoms get  worse, relationships suffer and performance at work  suffers.

Adults with ADHD are often good at looking after other people but not so good at treating themselves with the same care and attention. [Read more…]

7 Secrets From a Very Successful ADHDer

7 Secrets from a Very Successful ADHDerIt is always interesting to learn what habits successful people have and how they think. Particularly if they have ADHD.  One of my favorite podcasts, ‘Spartan Up’ interviewed ADHDer, Sir Richard Branson.

Billionaire, Richard Branson has experienced huge business success as the founder of the Virgin group. He is also successful in other areas of life, including a happy marriage of over 30 years, close relationships with his adult children, his humanitarian work, and excellent physical health.

Whatever your definition of success is, the things Richard Branson does and how he thinks, will help you with your ADHD and your life goals. [Read more…]

6 Reasons Why ADHDers Don’t Like The Holidays


The holidays are nearly here!  But do you enjoy them? If you answered no; don’t worry, you aren’t alone. Many adults with ADHD feel the same. While many people love vacation time away from work, eating good food and spending time with their families, it’s not always the case with ADHDers. [Read more…]

ADHD and SAD

ADHD and Seasonal Affective DisorderThe winter of 2013/14 was a particularly brutal winter here in Montreal. The cold weather started earlier than usual and went on and on. It seemed to be a never ending winter. That year, I had an unprecedented amount of clients suffering with depression. I had already had a sneaky suspicion that adults with ADHD were more prone to get SAD than the non-ADHD population, and a little research backed up my hunch.

You are more likely to experience SAD if you have ADHD.

Seasonal Affective Disorder or SAD is a form of depression. It is triggered by the reduction of sunlight and colder temperatures that come with the change of seasons. These environmental changes spark a change in your circadian rhythm. [Read more…]

ADHD and Hibernation

There is a behaviour among ADHDers that I haven’t heard being talked about much, but it’s actually quite wide spread. In fact, it’s so common that I have given it a name: Hibernation.

When things get stressful, ADDers retreat from life and…hibernate. They withdraw into the safety of their homes and don’t answer the phone, respond to emails or engage in any productive activities. They might do activities that calm them and block out reality, like lie on the sofa and watch back-to-back movies, hyper-focus on video games, read mindless novels, etc. This time isn’t pleasant though, because there is a huge amount of anxiety, fear and shame about the issues being avoided. [Read more…]