ADHD and Overthinking

Are you an overthinker? Overthinking is when you can’t stop thinking about a topic, even though it is making you miserable. Your brain is stuck in a loop and you play out a situation or memory again and again. While another person might think about a topic, process it and switch to a new one, your brain continues to ruminate.

Rarely (if ever) does overthinking bring joy. Instead it makes you feel bad about yourself and puts you in a blue mood. Negative thoughts are like magnets, they draw other bad memories into your mind. After ruminating on all these difficult memories it is hard to feel positive about the future. [Read more…]

ADHD and Meal Planning

When you have ADHD, meal planning can be a logistically challenging! This is because it involves all the things that can be difficult when you have ADHD; like making decisions, paying attention to details and forward planning. However, meal planning is a skill worth developing. Because when you eat healthy, ADHD-friendly food, your unwanted ADHD symptoms can be minimized.

“When I changed the way I ate (as Jacqui recommended), a lot of the things I thought were due to ADHD just disappeared.”
– Mark Kawate

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ADHD and OCD

Sally felt really proud of herself.  For years she felt like her house was looking like a disaster area. Every surface was piled high with papers, shopping bags, paper work and flyers were mixed with important tax documents.

Her floors  had abandoned clothes and half empty boxes from her last move, which was 3 years ago. She was so embarrassed that she never invited friends over.

Then one evening, Sally got frustrated because she couldn’t find a spoon to cook her stir fry. So, she decluttered her spoon drawer.  It felt so good to  have a tidy drawer that over the next year Sally  decluttered and tidied every drawer, shelf, counter top and floor space. [Read more…]

Why Reading on a Kindle is Great for ADHDers

A little while ago I wrote an article called ‘How to Read a Book When You Have ADHD’. Its aim was to stop ADHDers from feeling guilty if they didn’t read books in the traditional linear way.

After that article, people emailed me asking for tips to read novels, which do have to be read beginning to end. Lots of people said their mind would wander or they would stop reading half way through the book even if they were enjoying it.

This article is about the benefits of reading books on a Kindle  when you have ADHD. [Read more…]

ADHD And The Groundhog Day Cycle

February 2nd is Groundhog Day! Tradition has it that Groundhogs can predict whether winter will continue or spring will come early.

In the 1993 movie, Groundhog Day, Bill Murray plays a grumpy TV meteorologist. He is sent to Punxsutawney, Pennsylvania to report on Groundhog Day. Murray hates the town and its cheery residents so when he gets stuck in a time loop living the same day again and again, it’s somewhat of a nightmare for him. [Read more…]

ADHD, Prospective Memory and Facebook

Keeping and maintaining friends can be a challenge when you have ADHD. One reason is because of the ‘out of sight, out of mind’ factor.  When you are seeing friends every day, perhaps at work or in University classes, it’s easy to stay connected and make a plan to hang out.

However,  if that regular contact changes, you change jobs or graduate, it is very easy to lose touch.  This has nothing to do with the quality of your friendship; instead, it’s due to prospective memory. Dr Ari Tuckman says prospective memory is ‘remembering to remember’.

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ADHD and Remembering Your Belongings

In his book, ‘Scattered Minds’ Dr. Gabor Maté tells a story about a gentleman with ADHD and his dog.  They, like other humans and dogs, go for daily walks together.

In preparation for their walk, the man puts on his coat, shoes and hat,  and the dog stays peacefully under the kitchen table. The man leaves the house, and the dog waits under the table. The man comes back several times for forgotten items, such as keys and wallet.  Then the third time the dog gets up and joins his owner for the walk. This wise dog has gotten the hang of living with an  adult ADHD! [Read more…]

Should I Get Tested For ADHD?

Matthew wandered into the living room. The TV was on and he caught the last few minutes of a documentary about adults having ADHD.   He felt excited because the description on the TV sounded just like him. In fact, it was as if the documentary cameras had been following him around his whole life.

When the show ended, Matthew ran to his laptop and started Googling Adult ADHD. The more he articles he read the more excited he got.

Next, he went onto Amazon and ordered 6 books about ADHD.  The last time Matthew had read a book was in school…3 decades ago. However, when the Amazon box arrived he snatched the box from the delivery man’s hand, hoped he didn’t seem rude and read each of the books from cover to cover.

He felt so validated and happy that there was a name for why he was the way he was. [Read more…]

How to Prioritize Self-Care When You Have ADHD

How to Prioritize Self-Care When You Have ADHDThe term self-care can conjure up images of luxury spa treatments and exotic island retreats. In reality though, self-care is about practical day to day actions that make sure you are well looked after.

Self-Care is care for you by you. 

It is knowing what your needs are, then making sure those needs are met.  Those needs range from eating food regularly, taking a shower,  developing communication skills and doing activities that make you happy.

If you don’t look after yourself, it is easy to become physically depleted, emotionally exhausted, resentful, depressed or angry, which in turn can mean your ADHD symptoms get  worse, relationships suffer and performance at work  suffers.

Adults with ADHD are often good at looking after other people but not so good at treating themselves with the same care and attention. [Read more…]