ADHD and The ‘Don’t Do’ List!

018JCKYVRZADHDers love to be productive; they will forfeit sleep, exercise and many other vital activities in order to get stuff done’.(Of course, sleep and exercise increase productivitybut that is a topic for another day).

It is a great feeling to start the day with a brand new To-Do list, but by the evening, you can feel very discouraged if you didn’t get to cross everything off.

This is where the ‘Dont Do’ list comes in.

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14 Ways to Eliminate Afternoon Crashes For ADHDers

14 Ways to Eliminate ADHD Afternoon CrashesBetween 2 pm and 4 pm, Adults with ADHD often experience afternoon crashes. Everyone experience afternoon slumps to some degree; where you feel mentally, physically and emotionally exhausted. However, there are factors in the ADHDers’ life; which means you don’t just experience a little slump, yours are full blown crashes.

Aside from wanting to fall asleep on the spot, they also affect your attention, focus, productivity, and your ability to stay calm and rational.

Here are 14 things you can do to minimize or eliminate your afternoon crashes. The more suggestions you implement, the more results you will see! [Read more…]

ADHD and Shame

Shame and ADHD often go hand in hand.

Shame is a cocktail of emotions including embarrassment, regret, humiliation and feeling less than.

Many adults living with ADHD feel ashamed of themselves and their behavior – both for what they did and didn’t do.

You might feel shame for not matching society’s  ‘norms’, such as for a failed marriage, exam or job.

Daily life activities can also provoke a huge amount of shame, for example repeatedly losing your keys or  struggling to keep a tidy house. If a neighbour pops in for an unexpected visit,  you might feel ashamed at your messy house and then relive that shame whenever you see your neighbor. [Read more…]

ADHD and Self-Sabotage 

Sabotage means to ‘deliberately destroy.’  To self-sabotage, means doing things (actions, thought patterns, etc.) that stop us from achieving our goals. The tricky thing about self-sabotage is that we aren’t always aware that we are doing it. On the surface, self-sabotage can look like you are being rational or logical.

For example, if your goal is to lose weight, you might buy a box of doughnuts ‘for guests’ and then keep them by the coffee machine where they are tempting you every time you walk by.

A Common ADHD Thought Pattern

This article is about common self-sabotage thought patterns that I have seen so many times they deserve their own article. [Read more…]

Is It Better to Date Someone With ADHD or Without?

Is it better if people with ADHD have a partner who has ADHD as well? Does dating people without ADHD makes us harder to communicate or relate to? Thanks in advance! 😉

This is a great question! And the quick answer is… it depends. Dating and having a longterm relationship is complex, and there isnt a simple answer.

There are pros and cons to dating people with and without  ADHD. Here is a snapshot of some of them. [Read more…]

ADHD and SAD

ADHD and Seasonal Affective DisorderThe winter of 2013/14 was a particularly brutal winter here in Montreal. The cold weather started earlier than usual and went on and on. It seemed to be a never ending winter. That year, I had an unprecedented amount of clients suffering with depression. I had already had a sneaky suspicion that adults with ADHD were more prone to get SAD than the non-ADHD population, and a little research backed up my hunch.

You are more likely to experience SAD if you have ADHD.

Seasonal Affective Disorder or SAD is a form of depression. It is triggered by the reduction of sunlight and colder temperatures that come with the change of seasons. These environmental changes spark a change in your circadian rhythm. [Read more…]

Transitioning When You Have ADHD

The definition of transition is a “Passage from one form, state, style, or place to another”.

Adults with ADHD can find transitions difficult, as it requires a large amount of energy and effort to disengage from one activity and move  attention to the next.  Changing gears like this and shifting focus can leave you feeling irritated, fatigued or scattered.

Transitions happen every day and come in a range of sizes. [Read more…]

ADHD and Hibernation

There is a behaviour among ADHDers that I haven’t heard being talked about much, but it’s actually quite wide spread. In fact, it’s so common that I have given it a name: Hibernation.

When things get stressful, ADDers retreat from life and…hibernate. They withdraw into the safety of their homes and don’t answer the phone, respond to emails or engage in any productive activities. They might do activities that calm them and block out reality, like lie on the sofa and watch back-to-back movies, hyper-focus on video games, read mindless novels, etc. This time isn’t pleasant though, because there is a huge amount of anxiety, fear and shame about the issues being avoided. [Read more…]

10 Tips for ADHD Students

It is challenging being a student with ADHD!  Many of the skills and characteristics that are required to be a good student are the very things that ADHDers find difficult.

Here are 10 tips to help you get good grades and enjoy your student days.

Even if your university days were over long ago, some of these tips will still be useful for you in your workplace for example, preparing for a presentation or staying alert in meetings. [Read more…]