Info on ADHD

Welcome to the Untapped Brilliance Blog! I am Jacqueline Sinfield the ADHD coach for Adults. On this blog you will find tons of info on ADHD. One the most common sentence I hear from clients is ‘I have so much potential but I just can’t seem to reach it’.  I wrote the ADHD book Untapped Brilliance: How to Reach Your Full Potential as an Adult with ADHD to answer that very question. Untapped Brilliance outlines simple yet highly effective, alternative ways to minimize your unwanted ADHD symptoms so that your wonderful gifts can shine brightly. When that happens, not only are you able to reach your potential, but your life also becomes way less stressful and lots more fun.

The articles here on the blog are all a reflection of my ADHD Coaching philosophy. I am really excited to share with you loads of info on ADHD, and proven strategies that are super effective in minimizing your negative aspects of ADHD so that your magnificent gifts can shine brightly and you too can reach your potential!

Don’t forget to leave questions or comments as I love hearing from you

Goodbye, Clutter!

Goodbye, Clutter! Living in a cluttered, unorganized environment is a common thing when you have ADHD. There are lots of reasons for this, such as:

  1. You start one activity, then get distracted and start working on another activity, so the things from the first activity are still lying around.
  2. You don’t like to put things away in cupboards and because you are scared you will forget about them.
  3. Tidying up is boring, so you keep putting it off.
  4. You never got organized in the first place. When you first moved into this home, you never found a place for everything. You might still have half empty moving boxes lying around now.
  5. You keep newspaper articles and other objects as visual reminders of things you want to do and see. This means, you accumulate a lot of things.
  6. ADHDers love to collect things: teapots, baseball caps, pens,etc. It doesn’t matter what it is; I bet you collect at least one thing. These collections can get out of hand.
  7. Feeling overwhelmed, so you end up doing something else besides tidying and getting organized.
  8. You honestly never learned how to be tidy and organized. It’s not an excuse, but being tidy and organized isn’t a skill that you were born with and no one taught it to you.

It is hard to be organized and tidy when you have a lot of stuff. Yet, living in clutter causes stress, overwhelm, guilt, distraction and is time consuming.

Don’t feel bad; having a lot of stuff isn’t just a ‘you’ thing. It’s the age that we live in. According to an anthropologist at University of California (UCLA), “we are ‘the most materially rich society in global history’ and have’ light-years more possessions per average family than any preceding society”.

However, help is at hand in the form of a brilliant book by Marie Kondo called, ‘The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing”.

I have read a lot of decluttering books and this is by far my favourite.  How could you not love a book with the description on the back cover that starts with, ‘Despite constant efforts to declutter your home, do papers still accumulate like snowdrifts and clothes pile up like a tangled mess of noodles?’

It’s full of very helpful suggestions so if you like to read, I highly recommend it.

Here are 3 of my favorite tips from the book that I think will help you too.

  1. Pick an area that you want to declutter. Start small, maybe a shelf. Now remove everything on the shelf. Next, put back only the things that you want to keep.

This method makes deciding what to get rid of very easy. I managed to donate 100 books using this technique. Once you have used this method, you will love the new decluttered area so much that it becomes very easy to maintain. For example, I decluttered our recipe book shelf. The shelf looked shiny and fresh. Later, when my boyfriend saw a recipe I had clipped out of the newspaper, he popped it on top of the recipe books. In the past, it would have stayed like that for weeks, but it just looked so out of place that seconds later, I was filing it away in our recipe binder. I was very motivated to tidy and it seemed effortless.

  1. Start with the things that are easier to part with.
    Marie says people have trouble throwing out things that have:
  • Functional value (when you could still use the item)
  • Information value (has information you think you might need)
  • Emotional value (being anything sentimental)

Don’t start with any of these things! It will sabotage your good intentions. Instead, pick a category that will be easy for you. Marie suggests starting with clothes.

  1. Don’t let family see what you are getting rid of.
    When people see what you are donating they might acted shocked and then you will second guess your decision. You have done so well to get it through to the donate / throw out stage; you don’t want a third person to change your mind.

Have you tried any of these suggestions? Leave a message in the comments section below!

 

 

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Why Rest Days are Vital When You Have ADHD

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Do Your Emotions Get In The Way Of You Doing Things?

Do Your Emotions Get In The Way Of You Doing Things?

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Does Your Boss Make Your ADHD Worse?

Does Your Boss Make Your ADHD Worse?

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How to Get Going On a New Task When You Have ADHD

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