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Welcome to the Untapped Brilliance Blog! I am Jacqueline Sinfield the ADHD coach for Adults. On this blog you will find tons of info on ADHD. One the most common sentence I hear from clients is ‘I have so much potential but I just can’t seem to reach it’.  I wrote the ADHD book Untapped Brilliance: How to Reach Your Full Potential as an Adult with ADHD to answer that very question. Untapped Brilliance outlines simple yet highly effective, alternative ways to minimize your unwanted ADHD symptoms so that your wonderful gifts can shine brightly. When that happens, not only are you able to reach your potential, but your life also becomes way less stressful and lots more fun.

The articles here on the blog are all a reflection of my ADHD Coaching philosophy. I am really excited to share with you loads of info on ADHD, and proven strategies that are super effective in minimizing your negative aspects of ADHD so that your magnificent gifts can shine brightly and you too can reach your potential!

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6 Reasons Why ADHDers Don’t Like The Holidays

hip covered with ice6 Reasons Why ADHDers Dont Like The HolidaysThe holidays are nearly here!  But do you enjoy them? If you answered no; don’t worry, you aren’t alone. Many adults with ADHD feel the same. While many people love vacation time away from work, eating good food and spending time with their families, it’s not always the case with ADHDers.

There are 6 reasons why ADHDers don’t like the holidays:

 

1) You (like everyone else), over-indulge in rich foods, sugar and wine. This exacerbates your ADHD and leaves you with brain fog, low in energy and even depressed.

2) Your usual weekday structure and routine is removed for the holidays. Without it, you feel blah and as if you are free-falling. Your routine is your safety net that helps you be productive, organized and fulfilled.

3) You really love your work and even though you love your family, hanging out at home is boring and under-stimulating.

4) Your usual exercise routine disappears (because it’s rude to leave your family or the gym is closed), which means a key part of controlling your ADHD and mood is missing.

5) Your confidence takes a beating. If you are good at your job, you are constantly getting positive feedback. This lifts your confidence and makes you feel good. In contrast, at home managing small household tasks is frustrating and overwhelming and zaps confidence.

6) You feel anxious when you aren’t at work. For some ADDers, particularly if work is where they can hyper-focus, they feel calm when they are working and anxious when they aren’t. So, long periods of not working can create anxiety.

On top of this ADHD list, there are all the usual reasons why people find the holidays stressful, like missing relatives that are no longer with you or spending time with in-laws that they don’t get along with, etc.

Rather than dread the holidays, here are things you can do to help you enjoy them.

 

1) Even though it is the holidays, you don’t have to eat tons of rich food. Think of a few things that are important for you, Grandma’s Christmas cake, etc. Then, enjoy the foods that have meaning to you and ignore the rest. There is an expectation that you have to eat and drink large quantities, but if you erase that social rule, it’s much easier to stick with your regular eating habits.

2) If you miss the structure of regular life, why not create some into your holidays too? Use the same guidelines for planning your weekend. Some down time, mixed with some planned things.

It does take a little bit of forward planning, that small investment of planning time will pay off.

3) Plan stimulating things to do. You don’t have to sit around and feel bored doing traditional holiday things. Print out a calendar and plan one really fun thing to do every day. Remember that as an ADHDer, you may find different things fun from other people, but that’s ok. Skiing, decorating your bedroom, etc., whatever is exciting to you.

4)  You can still exercise during the holidays! You might have to be a bit creative if your gym is closed or you are travelling. However, you will be much happier when you keep up with exercising.

5) You get a shot of dopamine and feel good every time you complete a task. So, continue to make a to-do list even though you are on holidays. You might not get as much validation at home as at work, but if someone gives you a complement, write it down so you remember it.

6) Anxiety.
The holiday can be stressful and if you are prone to anxiety, check out this article, it has THE best anti-anxiety strategy.
http://untappedbrilliance.com/adhd-anxiety-strategy

 

What have you found helpful during the holidays? Leave a note in the comments section below!

 

 

7 Reasons Why ADHDers seem Self-Centered

7 Reasons Why ADHDers seem Self-Centerd

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Why Rest Days are Vital When You Have ADHD

Why Rest Days are Vital When You Have ADHD

When you have ADHD, it's very important to schedule regular recharge days. These are days where you don’t have to do anything except relax.  No commitments; no schedule.  If you are thinking, ‘But I don’t have time for that!’, I guarantee you do. … [Continue reading]

Do Your Emotions Get In The Way Of You Doing Things?

Do Your Emotions Get In The Way Of You Doing Things?

Are you constantly second guessing yourself? Do you question your ability to do a task even though other people know you are capable of it? This happens to so many people with ADHD. It results in procrastination, feelings of resistance and ambiguity, … [Continue reading]

Does Your Boss Make Your ADHD Worse?

Does Your Boss Make Your ADHD Worse?

Bosses have a huge impact on ADHD adults’ ability to succeed in the work place. It all hinges on their personality and leadership style. Have you noticed when you spend time with certain people, you feel smart, on the ball and performing at your … [Continue reading]

How to Get Going On a New Task When You Have ADHD

How to Get Going On a New Task When You Have ADHD

In this video, I answer a great question from a blog reader. “It seems to take me forever to get going on new activities; especially when I start my day or at the office. Can you help?” This is a very common problem and it's pretty easy to … [Continue reading]

How to Stop Worrying When You Have ADHD

How to Stop Worrying When You Have ADHD

Worry and ADHD go hand in hand. Your creative busy mind thinks of all sorts of things to worry about. However, there are things you can do to empower yourself and stop worrying. In this video, I share my 3 best … [Continue reading]

Top Ten Best ADHD Blog Award

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Guess what? The Untapped Brilliance blog just won an award! It’s one of the Top Ten Best ADHD blogs! Isn’t that awesome? I was so happy, excited and incredibly honored when I found out. Psych Central is an incredibly site for all things related … [Continue reading]

Why it’s Hard to Stop Multi-tasking!

Why it’s Hard to Stop Multi-tasking!

This summer, I wrote an article called, ‘ADHD and Single Tasking’; all about why single tasking is the new multi-tasking. You can check it out here. If you are still multi-tasking, don’t feel bad. Today’s article explains why multi-tasking is … [Continue reading]

8 Reasons Why Adults with ADHD Feel Stupid

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I hate the word 'stupid' but I put it in the title because that is how many people with ADHD describe themselves. The ADHDers I have meet (which are a LOT at this point), are bright, intelligent, sharp, smart, wise, good company and wickedly … [Continue reading]