ADHD and The ‘Don’t Do’ List!

018JCKYVRZADHDers love to be productive; they will forfeit sleep, exercise and many other vital activities in order to get stuff done’.(Of course, sleep and exercise increase productivitybut that is a topic for another day).

It is a great feeling to start the day with a brand new To-Do list, but by the evening, you can feel very discouraged if you didn’t get to cross everything off.

This is where the ‘Dont Do’ list comes in.

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ADHD and Shame

Shame and ADHD often go hand in hand.

Shame is a cocktail of emotions including embarrassment, regret, humiliation and feeling less than.

Many adults living with ADHD feel ashamed of themselves and their behavior – both for what they did and didn’t do.

You might feel shame for not matching society’s  ‘norms’, such as for a failed marriage, exam or job.

Daily life activities can also provoke a huge amount of shame, for example repeatedly losing your keys or  struggling to keep a tidy house. If a neighbour pops in for an unexpected visit,  you might feel ashamed at your messy house and then relive that shame whenever you see your neighbor. [Read more…]

ADHD and Self-Sabotage 

Sabotage means to ‘deliberately destroy.’  To self-sabotage, means doing things (actions, thought patterns, etc.) that stop us from achieving our goals. The tricky thing about self-sabotage is that we aren’t always aware that we are doing it. On the surface, self-sabotage can look like you are being rational or logical.

For example, if your goal is to lose weight, you might buy a box of doughnuts ‘for guests’ and then keep them by the coffee machine where they are tempting you every time you walk by.

A Common ADHD Thought Pattern

This article is about common self-sabotage thought patterns that I have seen so many times they deserve their own article. [Read more…]

Is It Better to Date Someone With ADHD or Without?

Is it better if people with ADHD have a partner who has ADHD as well? Does dating people without ADHD makes us harder to communicate or relate to? Thanks in advance! 😉

This is a great question! And the quick answer is… it depends. Dating and having a longterm relationship is complex, and there isnt a simple answer.

There are pros and cons to dating people with and without  ADHD. Here is a snapshot of some of them. [Read more…]

Transitioning When You Have ADHD

The definition of transition is a “Passage from one form, state, style, or place to another”.

Adults with ADHD can find transitions difficult, as it requires a large amount of energy and effort to disengage from one activity and move  attention to the next.  Changing gears like this and shifting focus can leave you feeling irritated, fatigued or scattered.

Transitions happen every day and come in a range of sizes. [Read more…]

10 Tips for ADHD Students

It is challenging being a student with ADHD!  Many of the skills and characteristics that are required to be a good student are the very things that ADHDers find difficult.

Here are 10 tips to help you get good grades and enjoy your student days.

Even if your university days were over long ago, some of these tips will still be useful for you in your workplace for example, preparing for a presentation or staying alert in meetings. [Read more…]

10 Reasons Why Pets Help ADHD.

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Photo by Reanna Evoy.

Pets can have very positive effects on your ADHD symptoms. Author of the bestselling “10 Simple Solutions to Adult ADD” Stephanie Moulton Sarkis has Dalmatian dogs and says

Pets, in studies, have been found to lower blood pressure and improve overall quality of life.  Dogs especially help get people exercising – and exercising has been found to be an effective non-medication treatment for ADHD

I asked Untapped Brilliance blog readers to tell me how their pets affect their daily lives.  Most people had either cats or dogs. However, rabbits, guinea pigs and fish were also popular. [Read more…]

ADHD and Mail!

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When you are living with ADHD, it can be hard to know what is normal for you and what is ADHD related.

Mail is a good example.

If you have piles of unopened mail, you might feel embarrassed or get frustrated with yourself. Yet when you know it’s a common ADHD ‘thing,’ it feels better.

Your piles of mail are still there.

But now you know it’s not personal. There is a reason why this is hard and knowing that gives you permission to find practical solutions.

Having piles of mail can cause 2 types of problems.

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12 ADHD Friendly Suggestions to Master Email

Emails are a great way to keep in touch and communicate with people all over the world. Yet, at times the influx of messages can feel distracting, overwhelming and as if email is taking over your whole life!

1) Don’t Check Email All Day

Nothing sabotages productivity more than having your inbox open all day. You find yourself checking it when you are bored, during telephone calls or when you should be starting a deep concentration task.
Instead, have set times of the day where you check your email. For example, you could check it at 9.am, 1pm and 4pm.

Some ADHDers are resistant to this structured email checking idea. They argue that due to the nature of their job, closing their inbox would be impossible. In reality there aren’t many jobs where an open inbox is a requirement. [Read more…]