Should I Get Tested For ADHD?

Matthew wandered into the living room. The TV was on and he caught the last few minutes of a documentary about adults having ADHD.   He felt excited because the description on the TV sounded just like him. In fact, it was as if the documentary cameras had been following him around his whole life.

When the show ended, Matthew ran to his laptop and started Googling Adult ADHD. The more he articles he read the more excited he got.

Next, he went onto Amazon and ordered 6 books about ADHD.  The last time Matthew had read a book was in school…3 decades ago. However, when the Amazon box arrived he snatched the box from the delivery man’s hand, hoped he didn’t seem rude and read each of the books from cover to cover.

He felt so validated and happy that there was a name for why he was the way he was. [Read more…]

The ADHDers Gift Guide

If your mind usually goes blank when a loved one asks what you would like for Christmas, this wish list will give you ideas. The 10 items will help you and your ADHD, so that 2018 is a really awesome year for you.

In order for an item to be included, it had to be affordable and solve an ADHD challenge. If you have an item that you love, let me know and I will include it on the blog. [Read more…]

ADHD and Letting People Down

origami-827901_640Here are 5 common reasons why people with ADHD ‘let people down’, even though you don’t mean to.

  1. Forgetful

  2. ADHD affects memory. This means you forget things including: important meetings, birthdays, events, errands you were going to run. When you realize you forgot something, you probably feel awful and try to make it up to the people involved.

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Essentially Brilliant!

On paper, George should be happy. He has a supportive wife, two healthy children, a university degree and a job that pays the bills.  Yet George is miserable and feels a little more frustrated with himself every day.

Each morning he wakes up sleep-deprived and with a sense of dread about the day a head. Life doesn’t seem fun; it feels like something to get through.

His ADHD symptoms are managed just well enough that he can do what is required of him to avoid getting fired or having arguments at home. However, he lives with an uneasy feeling of dissatisfaction that he is capable of so much more. [Read more…]

ADHD and The ‘Don’t Do’ List!

018JCKYVRZADHDers love to be productive; they will forfeit sleep, exercise and many other vital activities in order to get stuff done’.(Of course, sleep and exercise increase productivitybut that is a topic for another day).

It is a great feeling to start the day with a brand new To-Do list, but by the evening, you can feel very discouraged if you didn’t get to cross everything off.

This is where the ‘Dont Do’ list comes in.

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ADHD and Shame

Shame and ADHD often go hand in hand.

Shame is a cocktail of emotions including embarrassment, regret, humiliation and feeling less than.

Many adults living with ADHD feel ashamed of themselves and their behavior – both for what they did and didn’t do.

You might feel shame for not matching society’s  ‘norms’, such as for a failed marriage, exam or job.

Daily life activities can also provoke a huge amount of shame, for example repeatedly losing your keys or  struggling to keep a tidy house. If a neighbour pops in for an unexpected visit,  you might feel ashamed at your messy house and then relive that shame whenever you see your neighbor. [Read more…]

ADHD and Self-Sabotage 

Sabotage means to ‘deliberately destroy.’  To self-sabotage, means doing things (actions, thought patterns, etc.) that stop us from achieving our goals. The tricky thing about self-sabotage is that we aren’t always aware that we are doing it. On the surface, self-sabotage can look like you are being rational or logical.

For example, if your goal is to lose weight, you might buy a box of doughnuts ‘for guests’ and then keep them by the coffee machine where they are tempting you every time you walk by.

A Common ADHD Thought Pattern

This article is about common self-sabotage thought patterns that I have seen so many times they deserve their own article. [Read more…]

Is It Better to Date Someone With ADHD or Without?

Is it better if people with ADHD have a partner who has ADHD as well? Does dating people without ADHD makes us harder to communicate or relate to? Thanks in advance! 😉

This is a great question! And the quick answer is… it depends. Dating and having a longterm relationship is complex, and there isnt a simple answer.

There are pros and cons to dating people with and without  ADHD. Here is a snapshot of some of them. [Read more…]

Transitioning When You Have ADHD

The definition of transition is a “Passage from one form, state, style, or place to another”.

Adults with ADHD can find transitions difficult, as it requires a large amount of energy and effort to disengage from one activity and move  attention to the next.  Changing gears like this and shifting focus can leave you feeling irritated, fatigued or scattered.

Transitions happen every day and come in a range of sizes. [Read more…]