Archives for July 2014

What Successful ADHDers Do…And How You Can Do It Too!

Justin TimberlakeJustin Timberlake came to Montreal over the weekend!  JT is a brilliant performer; he can sing, dance, has an incredible stage presence, and is funny and genuine.

If you are thinking that the photo was taken a long way away from the stage, you are right. It was! 15 months ago, tickets went on sale at 10 am and at 10:06, those were the best seats I could get. Crazy (in a good way) right?

Justin Timberlake has a huge fan base; the noise at the concert was insane, not from the music but from the appreciative crowd. Everyone was very happy to be there. Imagine having the power to make that many people happy by doing something you love to do.

Did you also know that JT has ADHD and OCD?

JT, like other famous or successful people with ADHD, uses it to his advantage (it take a lot of energy to perform 2 hours and 30 minutes). He focuses on what he is good at and what he enjoys doing.

Are you wondering what ‘focusing on what you are good at’ looks like for a regular person? Here is a real life example.

John (not his real name), is a client who is naturally very talented in all things technical. He has a wealth of knowledge about a particular software and is a successful consultant to business owners. John helps business owners use this software to make their business run smoothly and profitably. People love hiring him because not only can he problem solve, create big visions, set up complex things, he is also a gifted teacher and coach.

Every so often, John attends a networking meeting. Last week, John was asked if he could run the meeting, because the organizer was going to be away.

On the day of the meeting, John arrived on time but forgot to print out the itinerary to hand out to everyone like the organizer usually does. He did remember to bring snacks but forgot the soft drinks. He started to beat himself up about the things he didn’t do.

However, when the guest speaker didn’t show up, John stepped up in front of the crowded room and did a talk completely unprepared. The guest speaker was going to talk about the software John knows a lot about. So John talked about the software and he bought it to life with a case study. When he finished, he got a round of applause (the first in the history of the meeting)! Everyone at the meeting had been completely engaged with the presentation, and days later, people were still talking about it in the online forum.

When John and I talked, he told me about the event, but he was having a hard time enjoying the success, because he was focusing on the things he hadn’t done: the drinks and itinerary.

Because it was easy for him to talk about a software he loves, he wasn’t giving himself any credit for the fabulous presentation he had given with no preparation.

John isn’t alone in this. Many people with ADHD do this. They don’t give themselves credit for their successes. They discount its importance because it’s easy for them. Instead, they focus on the small things that they didn’t do. Things that other people have long forgotten (no one posted on the forum about the missing itinerary). However, when you do this, you drag yourself down and cloud your brilliance.

John, like Justin, has created a life and business focusing on his strengths and what he is good at. With a tiny of bit of fine tuning to his internal dialog, John is going to really enjoy his successes; which in turn, will lead to having more and more successful experiences!

This week, your action steps are:

1) Write down what you are naturally good at.
2) Identify which of those you enjoy doing.
3) Work out how to spend more time doing them.
4) Spend more time celebrating your successes than thinking about the small stuff.
5) Notice how much easier and fun life is!

 

What are you naturally good at? leave me a note in the comments section below!

 

 

How to Finish What You Started

How to Finish What You StartedOver the last 6 months, I’ve developed a bad habit. I kept starting a book and not finishing it. Each book was interesting and helpful; and yet, I would get half way through and then, start another. Someone would recommend a book and so I would get it and start it right away. Or, I would need to learn about something and get a book about that topic; then, one of the books would make a reference to another book, so I would get that too.

I was finishing some of the books I started, so that helped to camouflage the problem. Also, because the books were all on my kindle, there wasn’t the visual evidence of this bad habit… no piles of books lying around. However, I had a scattered and incomplete feeling. It doesn’t feel good to keep starting things and not finishing them.

On the weekend, I decided to put a stop to this feeling. I sat down with a notepad and my kindle and wrote down all the titles of the books I hadn’t finished. Turns out, it was an even 20.
They were all still interesting (as my life hadn’t changed in the last 6 months to make any of them irrelevant). I made a new rule for myself that I couldn’t buy any new books until I had read those 20. Creating the list felt great. In the next 2 days, I finished 2 of those books; which felt even better!

So what have you been starting and not finishing recently?
If a lot of things come to mind, pick one area; such as: house renovation, craft projects, books, self-improvement projects, etc.

Now follow these steps to begin finishing what you started:

1) Make a decision to finish what you started (in the area you choose).
2) Get really clear about what you have to finish. Write down a list, so you know exactly what you need to do to finish.
3) When you will be able to do this? Allocate time. A little every day is great to see and feel momentum.
4) Have a reward at the end.

What are you going to finish? Leave a comment below!

Age-Activated Attention Deficit Disorder

This week, rather than an article I wanted to show you a video.

The title is Age-Activated Attention Deficit Disorder, however it gives an insight into what life is like when you have ADHD regardless of your age. After you have watched it, send it some of the closest people in your life so they can get an understanding of what it’s like to have Adult ADHD.

 

Living with ADD can be challenging and no one wants to use having ADHD as an excuse. However, when your loved ones get even a glimpse of how your mind works, it helps them to understand why you operate the way you do. They can appreciate that you are trying hard, even if you don’t produce the results they hoped for. That understanding goes a long way in every relationship, whether life partner, best friend or family member or co-worker. 

Remember too, there are lots of ways to help minimize your unwanted aspects of ADHD. Untapped Brilliance, How to Reach your full potential is a great place to start.

How to Stop Losing Your Keys When You Have ADHD!

Having ADHD and losing your keys regularly tend to go hand in hand. It might seem like a small thing, and even a bit of a joke to people who know you; “Harry has lost his keys again!”
However, it’s one of those small things that create big ripples.

It’s:
1) Stressful
2) Time consuming
3) Can be expensive
4) Makes you late for appointments

Imagine how easy life would be if you always knew where your keys were. You would never have those panic feelings again.

In this video, I explain a simple method, so that you always know where your keys are!

Now that you have watched the video, here are the steps again:

1) Put your keys on 1 key ring
2) Prune out the ones that you don’t use daily or weekly
3) Create key stations (home, work, in transition)
4) Be mindful

Bonus items:
5) Get some spare keys cut
6) If you like gadgets, check this out: https://www.elgato.com/en/smart/smart-key

 

Do you lose your keys a lot? Leave me a note in the comments section!