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UK VIP Coaching Intensive Day

UK VIP Coaching Intensive Day
May 2014

ADHD Coaching Intensives are like the power tool of coaching! We can go much deeper and cover more than is possible in the same number of hours of weekly coaching, and just like using a power tool, it’s a really fun experience! This is how one client felt after her first hour of coaching. Image how you will feel after a whole day!

UK VIP Day

“When I left your office, I felt I had wings; I felt happy and light and looking towards a better tomorrow. I feel more alive than I have felt in years, like an overcast sky opening up to the sunshine.”

After our day together, you will be able to step away from the circus tricks, all the plate spinning and juggling you needed to do to keep up with life.  Instead, you will have strategies and a plan, so you can be organized, feel grounded and get ahead. The only crazy trick you perform then, is the speed that items are being crossed off your to do list.

People are like snowflakes, DNA and fingerprints… they are all unique! So is how ADHD shows up in your life. Coaching Intensive Days reflect this uniqueness and no 2 coaching intensives are the same. It is specifically designed for you.

Because we want you to implement everything we covered in the Coaching Intensive, at the end of our day together, you walk away fully armed! An action plan, checklists, and a resource list; so you feel totally empowered and ready to take on your world!

Are you were wondering if it’s the right program for you?

Here is a list of attributes that people who benefit the most from ADHD Coaching Intensive Day have

  • Are motivated for change.
  • Have a positive attitude and are open to trying new things.
  • Thought there was something about my approach to treating and managing ADHD that resonated with you
  • Know that the investment won’t cause you any financial hardship
  • Feel excited about the possibility of a Coaching Intensive!!!

Practical Details.

There are 2 dates left…

  • London May 10th
  • Edinburgh May 20th

Intensives take place in a beautiful hotel meeting room.

What the Coaching Intensive includes

  •  1 hour coaching session approximately a month before hand (via Skype or telephone)

 You can explain your situation and what your challenges are etc*

  • 6.5 hours together on the Coaching Intensive day

From 10 to 4.30pm including breaks and lunch together

1 hour coaching session a couple of weeks after the Coaching Intensive day

  • This is where we check in to see how you are doing and answer questions you might have.

Emails

  • You can email me anytime to tell me how you are doing, ask questions, share wins etc.

A binder with your personal plan and checklists and resource list 

  • You will leave with this at the end of Coaching Intensive Day. Its unique to you! based on your life, your strengths and preferences. Its broken in to easy and do-able action steps so you can implement what we covered during the day together.

A paperback copy of Untapped Brilliance book.

  • I will pop this in the mail as soon as you enroll for the Coaching Intensive.

Membership to the Untapped Brilliance e course. 

  • You can start this any time; the minute you enroll or a year from now!

All other costs such as… 

  • Meeting Room, lunch, coffee, tea and snacks on the day are also covered.

The total investment is £787.00
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If you are excited to start email me at Jacqueline@untappedbrilliance.com

Then we can get arrange to speak on the phone/Skype to answer any questions and finalize the details.

ADHD and Assertiveness

In order to be a happy, healthy adult living with ADHD, an important skill to develop is assertiveness. When you are assertive, you are able to express your needs and feelings in a firm and polite way without hurting others. Common feedback I hear when I suggest learning to be assertive is, ‘Oh, but I don’t want to be too assertive’. The good news, it’s not possible to become ‘too assertive’, because then, you become aggressive, which isn’t our aim.

If we think of a scale from 1 to 10; 1 is passive and self-sacrificing, 5 is healthy and assertive, and 10 is inconsiderate, arrogant and self-centred. This gives a nice visual to show that you can’t be too assertive because then, you move away from being assertive and into the arrogant and demanding terrain.

Wikipedia describes assertiveness as:

‘Assertiveness is the quality of being self-assured and confident without being aggressive.’

One of the reasons why learning to be assertive is important when you have ADHD is to reduce angry outbursts. Anger is a common problem with ADDers. Clients often come and see me because their anger outbursts are getting them in trouble at work, at home and in traffic.

Many ADDers feel bad about themselves, feel that they are disappointing the people in their lives and have low-confidence. So they suppress their feelings and needs, and their general default mode is self-sacrificing (1 on the scale). However, this is dangerous, because resentment grows under the surface and then something happens and ‘all of sudden’, they fly into an angry rage. Some people don’t get angry; instead, they are depressed, anxious and feel stuck. If you are practicing assertiveness and are communicating your needs in a timely manner, then you will neither have rage or depression.

Benefits of being assertive are:

1) Feeling empowered. You know you can take care of yourself in all situations
2) Feel connected to others; instead of resentful or fearful
3) Less stressed
4) Increased physical health
5) Increased mental health Ex. Less depression
6) Improved relations with everyone in your life
7) Less conflicts
8) Less anger outbursts
9) Feel ok if someone has a different opinion to you (you don’t take it personally)
10) Reduced feelings of being walked over or taken for granted

Becoming assertive is a learnable skill, involving communication skills, personal boundaries and knowing that your feelings count.

Here are 6 steps for assertive communication:

1) Get clear on how you feel before you start communicating. If being assertive is new to you, you might need to take time beforehand, to get clear on this before you communicate.
This can be hard for ADDers because they don’t know if it’s ‘ok’ to feel like this or if it’s acceptable.

Part of becoming assertive also means developing confidence in your feelings. If you feel it, it’s real. You don’t have to back up your feelings with stats, you just have to know that if you feel happy, sad, frustrated, etc. it’s real and you are honoring those feelings by being assertive.

2) Use ‘I’ rather than ‘you’. You aren’t trying to blame others; rather, you are expressing how you feel. For example, don’t say ‘you make me feel…’ instead, say ‘I feel…’

3) Use non-verbal communication as well as verbal. Maintain eye contact and an open body posture.

4) Talk calmly in a clear voice. Don’t shout , get angry or whisper.

5) Listen to the other person, even if you don’t like what they are saying.

6) Throughout the communication, remember one of the key goals of assertiveness is to stand up for your needs so that you aren’t being taken for granted or bullied by others.

When you start to practice assertive skills, you are shaking up what is normal for you. It can feel scary. However, the benefits are definitely worth it in the long run.

Here is another article about ADHD and assertiveness.
http://untappedbrilliance.com/practicing-assertiveness