Archives for May 2012

Girls and ADHD

girls and adhdJust as the general public is surprised that adults have ADHD, they are also surprised to learn that girls and women have ADHD too and it’s not just a male disorder.

Boys are 3 times more likely to be diagnosed with ADHD than girls. This is properly because of the difference in behaviour. Boys tend to be rebellious and disruptive in the classroom and at home, so help and treatment is sought out. Girls, by  comparison are more likely to have inattentive ADHD. This means because ADHD, it isn’t so physically obvious to parents and teachers, therefore the girls are thought of as dreamy and not academic rather than having a problem that  needs help.

Stats show that girls with ADHD are more likely to have depression, anxiety, eating disorders and self-esteem issues than boys with ADHD. This is almost certainly a direct result of their ADHD not being recognized.

If you have a daughter who you think might have ADHD, start the process of getting a diagnosis right away. When you have an ADHD diagnosis, both of you are empowered. You know exactly what you are dealing with and can start treating it. This might include ADHD meds, but doesn’t have to necessarily.

Other ways to help your ADHD daughter are:

1) Spend some quiet one on one time with her every day. Go for a walk, hang out on the sofa and just listen to what she has to say. Most of it will be general chit chat, but when she is use to confiding in you, when something upsetting happens you will know about it immediately.

2) Find a sport or physical activity she enjoys. Make it easy and fun for her to do every day. Exercise, is a key. Not only does it help the ADHD symptoms, it also builds a healthy self-esteem. Girls that exercise are less likely to have eating  disorders, participate in underage drinking or engage in sexual relationships. All of which can be problems for girls with ADHD

3) Buy Omega 3 supplements so your daughter can start taking them. Omega 3 is incredible. Read why here: http://budurl.com/asb5

4) Consider getting a dog. Animals are completely non-judgmental and loving and fun. If your daughter is shy they help with confidence and if she doesn’t like exercise, they make it fun.

5) Tell the school. When your daughter is diagnosed she will be able to get accommodations at school. For example, extra time for exams. Children don’t like to be different from their peers, but this will help her get the grades she is capable of. Which, in turn helps confidence and boosts moral.

 

Why Happiness = Success When You Have ADHD

ADDers are very hard on themselves. They are always feeling ‘less than’. Rather than acknowledge what they did today and feel good about it, they focus on the long list of what they haven’t done yet. However, if you think like that, not only does it affect your self-esteem and confidence, it also lowers your energy and makes you miserable and sad.

Instead, if you allow yourself to feel pride in what you HAVE done, today, this week, month, year, this lifetime, then you will feel energized happy and can get more ‘done’ (Of course there is lots more to life than what you accomplish, but that’s another article!)

While I knew this to be true, I only had anecdotal evidence, based on myself and clients. That all changed when a client sent me this video, because it reminded her of the work we had been doing together.

http://www.ted.com/talks/shawn_achor_the_happy_secret_to_better_work.html

Shawn Anchor says we need to reverse the formula for happiness and success. The current formula is that most people live by is ‘the harder I work the more successful I will be and the more successful I am the happier I will be.’

BUT, this model is flawed, because every time we have a success we change the goal post.

You have good grades, but now you have to get better grades. You have a good job, now you have to get a better job. “If happiness is on the opposite side of success your brain will never get there. We have pushed happiness over the cognitive horizon and that is because we have to be successful and then we will be happy’.

In the video, Shawn explains that our brains work in the opposite order of society’s success formula.

For example, if you are feeling happy and positive in the present, then the performance of your brain improves, your intelligence, energy and creativity are all increased.

AND it gets better… when your brain is in a positive gear, it is 31% more productive, 37% better in sales and doctors are 19% faster at making an accurate and quick diagnoses.

So, make yourself a cup of tea, and relax because you are in for a treat. As well as being informative and wise, Shawn Anchor is a very funny presenter.

Anxiety, Procrastination And A New Job!

Ever wondering what private ADHD coaching is?  The easiest way to explain is to share the results of some very happy clients

One ADHD client had a lot of worry and anxiety. This was made worse by the ever mounting list of tasks at home and at work. In our coaching together we developed a unique time management and organization system that worked with how she functions best (not a cookie cutter system). She now has confidence in herself that she can do all the tasks to fulfill her obligations at work and home. A wonderful side effect is that her worry and anxiety has been reduced by 75%.

A male client came to see me because his wife threatened to leave him if he didn’t seek help for his ADD. It was the motivation for change he needed. During our work together we addressed his disabling procrastination around tasks in the home. Now he is able to follow through on (almost ) everything he promises his wife he will do. He also puts items away after he has used them and no longer starts projects without finishing them. Both he and his wife are thrilled with the changes.

Another male client came to see me because he hated his job, but didn’t dare leave it because his work habits were so bad he didn’t think another company would tolerate them. During our coaching together he learned how to prioritize, return phone calls, manage his time so projects were completed on time and he arrived on time to work every morning. This was huge because he had routinely been 20 minutes late for the last 15 years. Not only was he really pleased with his new performance, his boss was too. He was promoted to a position he loves and give a handsome raise.

If you felt that flutter of excitement after reading the above, knowing it really is possible to achieve your goals, take the first step and email me. There’s no cost or obligation to chat and see if it’s right for you.

 

PS:  Please note, our coaching does not need to be done in person. I work on the telephone or using Skype with clients all around the world.

Parent Coaching

Parent Coaching

Are you a parent of an ADHD child? Do you want to help them overcome their ADHD struggles and challenges? Do want to learn  how to make some positive changes in their life?
Then Parent Coaching is perfect for you. Jacqueline coaches you so that you can help your child (under 18) overcome their challenges.

Parent Coaching includes 7 one hour individual coaching sessions. Either in person or over the telephone or skype.

$995.00

Best ADD ADHD blogs on the Net 2012

top 20 adhd blog winner adderworldI am very excited and honor that my blog…Untapped Brilliance has been recognized as one of THE ‘ best ADD ADHD blogs on the Net 2012’  YAY!!! There are 19 other amazing blogs on the list, which was compiled by the Bryan Hutchinson at ADDerworld.

Here is the list in case you want to visit some of the other blogs!